Richard Zwicky speaks with relationship coach Mr. Jay delves into the pitfalls of social media relationship advice, emphasizing that true relationship health stems from the relationship one has with themselves.

It highlights how childhood wounds and coping mechanisms often sabotage adult relationships, leading individuals to mistake these defenses for their true identity. Mr. Jay differentiates between a counselor (crisis management) and a coach (preventative and transformative work), offering practical steps like the "Lie/Forgiveness Exercise" to heal self-sabotage.

The discussion also covers the importance of self-love as structure and emotional honesty, and how to establish flexible boundaries through a "virtues list" and clear communication, especially for partners with abandonment issues.