Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Unpacking the Love Map: How Childhood Experiences Influence Adult Desires


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Ever felt like your past is casting a shadow over your love life? Childhood experiences, including trauma, are intricately woven into the nature and the challenges we face in relationships.


In this Language of Love Session, I delve into a heartfelt email from Muhammad, a courageous 21-year-old man from Iran. He’s grappling with his sexual orientation and OCD, sharing his attraction to abusive middle-aged men and connecting it to the emotional wounds inflicted by his abusive father. We tackle these heavy topics together, exploring the concept of the "love map"—a psychological framework that reveals how our past, particularly trauma, influences our romantic desires.


Here’s what we explore:

  • The impact of childhood trauma and abusive parental relationships on emotional well-being
  • The connection between OCD and unmanaged anxiety 
  • The "love map" concept and how early experiences shape our attractions
  • Understanding a "vandalized lovemap" and its effects on sexual desires and relationships
  • Distinguishing between healthy and harmful relationships
  • The importance of self-discovery and fostering healthy relationship dynamics

  • Don't forget to visit my website for customized courses like 'Good Grief,' 'Quantum Sex,' and more. Let’s embrace our authentic selves and make every moment count!


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