Do you attract unhealthy people to your life - romantic partners that are toxic? Have you been dating the same "type" of person, over and over again? If so, you aren't alone. In this episode, Dr. Moore examines the issue of attraction and romance and how early childhood experiences have a way of influencing us in the here and now.  When listening, you'll learn 5 steps that you can take to break the cycle.  Also in this show, you will hear about a man in Wyoming who identifies as straight but has strangely found himself physically attracted to another man.  RESOURCES FROM SHOW Confusing Love with Obsession (Amazon) Loving Kindness Meditation (Guy Counseling) More Men Than You Think Identify As ‘Mostly Straight’ (The Cut) Kinsey Institute - Research on Sexual Orientation  

E17. 5 Ways To Break The Cycle of Dating Toxic People

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This encore presentation explores the five signs you may need to take a break from social media.  Visit this link for show notes on the Guy Counseling blog.   

Encore: Is It Time To Take a Break from Social Media?

Do you struggle with people getting under your skin? Are you easily triggered by certain comments or topics? Hoping to create positive change? In this episode sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John explores how to stop letting people get under your skin. You’ll hear about the story of Austin, a young man who lost his temper on a train. Discover approaches to counseling including EMDR and Internal Family Systems (parts therapy) as part of healing past wounds. Do you have an internal protector, deep inside, trying to keep you from the source of your hurts? If trauma and pain are part of your past, you’ll want to listen to this episode. Important Links Use this link to get a special offer for listeners of the podcast with Better Help. Visit Good Therapy to learn about EMDR Link to episode 38 on how  Karma wants your dreams to come true. Learn about  Internal Family Systems (parts therapy). Helpful articles from one of the best anxiety therapist websites. Follow Dr. John on Social Media  Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook John's website and newsletter sign up 

How to Stop Letting People Get Under Your Skin

Are you trying to change an unhealthy behavior? Do you drink too much, eat too much or smoke too much? Is there a part of you who has come to realize your relationship with gambling, porn or shopping is toxic? In this episode of the Men’s Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John explores the process of change and how using the REST technique may be helpful. REST is the acronym for RELAX, EXAMINE, SET YOUR INTENTION, and TAKE ACTION and it comes from the world of DBT or Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn how using REST may offer a powerful brain hack by allowing you to ease into creating change in your brain’s pleasure center. Important Links Better Help – Show Sponsor To learn about the special offer for listeners of the Men’s Self-Help Podcast, use this link Learn about DBT and a technique to help control anger.  Listen to episode 33 to learn more about DBT. Help Guide on Addiction: A Harvard Health Article with a discussion about the brain’s pleasure center and information about the nucleus accumbens as mentioned in the podcast.  Click here to read the article Learn about positive psychology and how it can be used as part of counseling and coaching to help a person create change. Visit the Positive Psychology podcast. DBT Skills Workbook This workbook was mentioned in the pod. Visiting this link will brink you to Amazon. If you buy this book with this link, the podcast receives an affiliate commission. Click to go to Amazon. Follow Us on Social Media Click here to follow on Facebook Click here to follow on Instagram Click here to follow on Twitter  

4 Keys To Changing Unhealthy Behaviors

Trying to discover your life purpose? Does it feel like your life lacks meaning? In this episode, Dr. John goes over five specific strategies to help you find yourself and your life purpose. Using a combination of story telling with insights from Carl Jung, you can find out new things about yourself and train your brain to stimulate your Reticular Activating System, the part of the brain that is concerned with awareness.  As part of the show, you'll also learn about a men's resource for generating inner-happiness and awareness around your purpose.  Finally, learn about the special guide Dr. John has put together as part of your self-care routine - for guys.   Important Links Click here for a special skin care guide for men, created by Dr. John   Top 7 reasons men seek out therapy - Episode 37 Free personality assessment from 16 personalities. The Reticular Activating System from University of Minnesota The Daily Gratitude Journal for Men (Click here for Amazon)  Other Links  Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook Dr. John's website and newsletter sign up 

5 Strategies To Find Your Purpose In Life

Do you feel your mind is wired for anxiety? Do you constantly worry about failing? Are you looking for concrete ways to create positive change? In this episode, Dr. John explores the relationship between your thoughts, your brain and anxiety. Discover why fight, flight or freeze can be so powerful. Learn several easy-to-use coping techniques for creating calm as part of reprograming your anxious mind. Resources Mentioned in Podcast  Health Line Article on how some form of anxiety can be traced to a chemical imbalance.  Link To Episode 31: Comat Negative Self-Talk Link To Episode 35:  How To Quickly Get Out of a Funk Link to Medical News Daily:  Four Squared Breathing Book Suggestion Re-Wire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic and Worry. Visit Amazon Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

E17. 5 Ways To Break The Cycle of Dating Toxic People

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