On the 135th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I’m delighted to welcome our guest, Stephen Jenkinson. Stephen is a cultural worker, teacher, author, and ceremonialist. He is the creator and principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School, founded in 2010. He has master’s degrees from Harvard University (theology) and the University of Toronto (social work). He’s the author of Come of Age, the award-winning Die Wise, Money and the Soul’s Desires, and Reckoning (with Kimberly Ann Johnson). His latest book, Matrimony: Ritual, Culture and the Heart’s Work, invites readers to contemplate the significance of matrimony, ceremony, and cultural articulation—and how to redeem them for future generations.

In this rich conversation, Stephen explores profound questions about life, love, and the nature of existence. The discussion delves into the essence of ceremonies, particularly in matrimony, emphasising the need for meaningful endings and the responsibilities we hold towards future generations. 

The discussion weaves fate, ancestry, humility, and the call to “proceed as if you’re needed” into a meditation on how we might live fully inhabited lives.

For Stephen's latest book, Matrimony:
To buy your copy: https://orphanwisdom.com/store/matrimony/
About the book: https://orphanwisdom.com/books/matrimony/

For more of Stephen's work:
Website: https://orphanwisdom.com/

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00:01 – Introduction

01:37 – The Condition of Pondering

06:28 – Roots of Pondering

10:16 – The Dream Another World Has of You

19:36 – Needed vs Important

21:46 – Matrimony and the Presence of the Absence

26:00 – Longing and Belonging 

31:00 – Modern wedding and the privatisation of love

35:47 – The Art of the Ending

41:40 – Pompe and the Necessity of Closure

43:47 – Ritual as a Gift to the Village

45:45 – The White Heat of Possibility

51:25 – The Active Witness

53:43 – What Is a Good Life for Stephen?