“Get down off the cross honey, someone needs the wood” -- Dolly Parton Drama Debbie is in the house, and her martyrdom is impacting everyone. The victim conflict personality type can impact everyone within earshot,   they can be easy to dismiss and tough to deal with directly, don’t get caught chasing the shiny in their drama web.  In today’s episode, we dive into what you can do to redirect drama Debbies’ impact on you and the workplace. What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  The victim conflict personality type How the martyr works Graceful detachment Redirecting behavior The power of what you can control The verbal processor What to say How we react The conflict triangle, triangulation  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group   “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:  Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by  Asura Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

125 What to say to a Victim Conflict-Personality Type

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Do you ever wonder how a workplace turns toxic? It doesn’t happen all at once, and it doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Like a pot that slowly boils there are a lot of steps along the way where you can stop the chain reaction of events before the workplace turns toxic. When blame, exaggeration, and generalizations are used in a conflict communication gets lost. Generalizing is another way to label and dismiss a person or a topic. Exaggeration inflames what may otherwise be no big deal, into a conflict.  When identifying errors turns into a blame game, that is where the conversation ends. Tune in and discover what to be on the lookout for to make sure that your workplace doesn't slide down the slippery slope and wind up TOXIC. What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  Its by inches we travel miles What to be on the lookout for How to address minor issues before they become major Intergenerational communication Toxic workplaces Where it all starts How coworkers make it worse  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group   “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types   © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

183 How Toxic Happens

Our best self makes all the plans but she doesn't always show up to implement them The world is full of information, a plethora of knowledge is just a Bing search away, psych, we all use google. Yet with all this information at our fingertips, we can know a thing, understand it, but when it comes to implementing, it’s not as simple, we can have a hard time putting that information, that knowledge into practice.  So what do you need to make sure that you, and your team, walk the walk, and get implementing?   What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  What sinks a team Learning vs knowing What three things you need before you implement The $325 billion dollar business getting in your way?  Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group   “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation   Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

181 Walk the Walk

This is a juicy episode filled with the way’s that you can use stories in your everyday work life, from the boardroom to the stage. Carol and I talk about everything from our personal struggles and successes to the DNA of the feminine, from speaker hijackers to why Emma should stop watching Law and Order SVU. Carol tells us how she uses the three-act story structure and the Hero’s journey when working with clients. There are lots of free giveaways on dealing with conflict and a strategic speaking guide.  What you’ll hear in this podcast:  Stories help us see ourselves in others experiences Stories help us ‘rewrite history’ so that we can see a better way We don’t know how our personal story can impact others and the work that we do Throughout history it was dangerous for Women to speak their truth How recognizing patterns can help your storytelling Do an after-action review post speaking engagement, guest podcast episode, board meeting etc. Practice and repeat you message as often as possible to become more comfortable Visualize your environment Use skills practice and reflection to become a better speaker  Resources: 10 TIPS for Dealing with Difficult People  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

180 Using Stories to Relate to Clients with Carol Cox

Well, some difficult S*it just happened. In 176 weeks of recording the difficult happens podcast, I have never missed a publication.  It’s time for me to model the very behavior I talk about. We will all go through some … stuff in our lives and I want you to do the same when you encounter some really difficult stuff,  take care of yourself and your family. Next week, I will be back and I will be combating toxic, manipulative, bullying behavior head-on!  Work with Lara: Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types  Deep thoughts by Jack Handy (SNL) © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

179 Difficult Indeed Happened

Everyone, at one point in their life, has experienced a compliment that did not sit right. Either it was way too personal, or it felt a little backhanded. That's why we're tackling whether or not compliments are toxic! When we break down compliments, we can see that it depends on a variety of factors; Who is giving the compliment, the context, and the motive. When it comes to genuine compliments, you know it when you see it.    What you’ll hear on today’s episode:  Compliments Gaslighting and Narcissism Genuine compliments Overly familiar compliment Sideways compliments Backhanded compliments Awkward compliments Fishing compliments Toxic or Not?      Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call!  Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email help@difficulthappens.com  Corporate Training  Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources:  Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments  Series on Conflict Personality-Types   Squad    © Lara Currie 2021 Show Intro music by Scott Holmes Music Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone

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