In this conversation, Vin Infante, a therapist, mentor, and coach, shares his journey of transitioning from being a therapist to becoming a New York firefighter and then a coach. He emphasizes the importance of finding a fit that makes you feel fulfilled when helping others and not being attached to a specific role. Vin also discusses why he believes traditional therapy is not always effective, as it focuses too much on the conscious mind and neglects the subconscious mind. He encourages individuals to seek discomfort and challenge themselves in order to grow and become high performers. Vin addresses imposter syndrome and self-doubt by highlighting the need to take action and acquire the necessary skills to overcome these beliefs. In this conversation, Vin Infante discusses the concept of limiting beliefs and how they are formed. He explains that limiting beliefs are not inherent to us, but rather, they are adopted from others. He encourages listeners to challenge their limiting beliefs by imagining the person who instilled the belief as a ridiculous-looking creature, which can help diminish the power of the belief. Vin also emphasizes the importance of being present and mindful as a parent, as the moments with children are fleeting. He suggests being a 'sad parent' to fully appreciate and cherish these moments. Vin also shares insights on self-mastery and the power of intention in creating the life you desire.

Takeaways

✅ Transitioning between careers is a journey of self-discovery and finding a fit that brings fulfillment.

✅ Traditional therapy may not always be effective as it primarily focuses on the conscious mind and neglects the subconscious mind.

✅ Seeking discomfort and challenging oneself is essential for personal growth and becoming a high performer.

✅ Imposter syndrome and self-doubt can be overcome by taking action and acquiring the necessary skills. Limiting beliefs are not inherent to us, but are adopted from others. Challenging these beliefs by imagining the person who instilled them as a ridiculous-looking creature can help diminish their power.

✅ Being present and mindful as a parent is crucial, as the moments with children are fleeting. Embracing the sadness of knowing these moments will end can enhance presence and joy.

✅ Identify your various identities (e.g., father, husband, entrepreneur) and determine the most empowered version of each. Utilize the five aspects of self-mastery (thoughts, language, behaviors, actions, emotions) to become the best version of yourself in each identity.

✅ The internal world shapes the external world. By becoming the person you want to be internally, your external reality will reflect that. Manifestation is about internal transformation, not external actions alone.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:42 Transitions in Vin's Life

11:16 Embracing Discomfort

23:47 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

26:31 Limiting Beliefs and Self-Worth

31:31 The Power of Thoughts and Beliefs

37:03 Separating Thoughts and Emotions

38:01 Mindful Parenting

40:19 The Fleeting Moments of Parenthood

46:37 Becoming the Best Version of Yourself

51:30 The Five Aspects of Self-Mastery