Are you dreaming of having your day in divorce court? Of exposing your spouse’s misbehavior to a sympathetic judge? Of winning the case and being rewarded financially?

Then you are going to be sorely disappointed. The truth is, the court system cares little about your spouse’s wrongdoing. And the cost of litigation (in terms of money and mental health) far outweighs any potential reward.

So, what do you need to consider before you file for divorce?

Rayford Dalton Palmer, JD, AAML, serves as Managing Shareholder at STG Divorce Law, a top family law firm based in the Chicagoland area. Raiford’s team has expertise in complex divorce cases, specifically those involving business owners and high-net-worth individuals. Raiford is also the author of the bestseller I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money and Minds.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Raiford joins Katherine to explore the common myth that court is the best way to resolve a divorce and explain why there are no winners in a litigated divorce. He describes a divorce lawyer’s responsibility to provide clients with a sober analysis of potential outcomes and help people set realistic expectations around the divorce process. Listen in for Raiford’s insight on choosing among litigation, mediation and the collaborative process and learn how to bring a business mindset to divorce for the best possible result long term.

Topics Covered

What inspired Raiford to write I Just Want This Done as resource for divorce

Why it’s crucial to know your goals and set realistic expectations for the divorce process

The common myth that court is the best way to resolve a divorce case

Why there are no winners in a litigated divorce

A divorce lawyer’s responsibility to provide clients with a sober analysis of potential outcomes

How the justice system was not set up to deal with family issues

Why a spouse’s misbehavior almost never impacts the financial outcome of a divorce

Bringing a business mindset to the divorce process

Why Raiford recommends working with a divorce coach and lawyer

Choosing among litigation, mediation and the collaborative divorce process

Connect with Raiford Dalton Palmer

I Just Want This Done:

https://www.ijustwantthisdone.com/

STG Divorce Law on Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/stgdivorcelaw

Raiford on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/raifordpalmer

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money and Minds by Raiford Dalton Palmer, JD, AAML:

https://www.ijustwantthisdone.com/