Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

By Team Coco & Nicole Byer

Society & Culture Comedy Sexuality

What's Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer about?

Nicole Byer is single and has been for decades. She’s smart, funny, has a fat ass and loves giving blow jobs. So the question is why is she perpetually single? This podcast is a quest to find that answer.

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Empowering Relationship Sta...

01.22.2021

Actor and comedian Deon Cole (Black-ish, Barbershop) joins Nicole to share his deep wisdom about love and relationships. They discuss judging people by the moment, recognizing if your partner is in love with relationships or with you, the troubles of ...

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer episodes:

01.22.2021 Empowering Relationship Statements (w/ Deon Cole) Actor and comedian Deon Cole (Black-ish, Barbershop) joins Nicole to share his deep wisdom about love and relationships. They discuss judging people by the moment, recognizing if your partner is in love with relationships or with you, the troubles of ...
01.15.2021 Big Dick Energy (w/ Conan O'Brien) Conan O'Brien is here to help solve the root problems behind Nicole's singledom. They also discuss his sexually repressed Catholic upbringing, what it's like to have Big Dick Energy, and his plans for his 20th wedding anniversary. Nicole demands to ...
01.08.2021 Sex Work (w/ AM Davies) Sex worker AM Davies (Host of Yes, A Strippper Podcast) is here to answer all of Nicole's questions about stripping and sex work. She discusses the difference between decriminalizing vs legalizing sex work, how strippers are coerced into tipping the ...
01.01.2021 Lining Up a Relationship for the End of the World (w/ Niccole Thurman) Comedian & actress Niccole Thurman (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Shrill) joins Nicole to discuss their 2021 resolutions, how they are cleaning out toxic negativity in their life, and review each other's Hinge profiles. Support Black Lives Matter. For a ...
12.25.2020 Wedding Ruiners (w/ Solomon Georgio) Stand-up comedian and #Skategang member Solomon Georgio (Shrill, Adam Ruins Everything) talks to Nicole about his recent butt surgery and how he's been adapting to his new butt. They also chat about his skincare routine, the importance of partners posing ...
12.18.2020 Issues Affecting the Black Condition (w/ Roy Wood Jr.) Roy Wood Jr. (The Daily Show) shares his calculations on the safest way of traveling during COVID, discusses dealing with friends who aren't taking the pandemic seriously, getting detained in Canada, and reporting on Black issues on The Daily Show. ...
12.11.2020 Caught in the Act (w/ Jiggly Caliente) Drag queen and actress Jiggly Caliente (RuPaul's Drag Race S4, Broad City) joins Nicole to discuss sex work, walking in on friends or family members having sex, "Dick on-demand boys", and how much sex freakiness should you share with your ...
12.04.2020 Healthcare (w/ Langston Kerman) Actor and comedian Langston Kerman (Insecure, The Boys) joins Nicole to discuss her recent broken ankle and awkward brush with healthcare. He also shares the perks of dating long distance, how to attract chucklefuckers, and how he used the '36 ...
11.27.2020 Serving the Full Fantasy (w/ Creme Fatale) Drag queen & makeup artist Creme Fatale joins Nicole to discuss dating horror stories, how to leave a bad date fast, why aren't there any lady gloryholes, and makeup. Check out Creme Fetale's YouTube channel here: youtube.com/channel/UCJS8an0aBA9NfTBku95UOtw For more drag ...
11.20.2020 Grown-Up Breakup (w/ Lucy Stoole) Drag queen Lucy Stoole joins Nicole to discuss the story behind their drag name, their recent breakup, the struggles of dating app messaging, and if it's okay to leave a bad date early. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list ...
11.13.2020 Fresh Heartbreak (w/ Priyanka) Drag queen Priyanka (Winner of Canada's Drag Race, host of YTV's The Zone) joins Nicole to discuss their very recent breakup, getting COVID19 from Brooke Lynn Hytes, evolving from a kids tv host to a drag queen, and explains the ...
11.06.2020 Trash TV (w/ Patti Harrison) Comedian Patti Harrison (Shrill, Search Party) joins Nicole to chat about 90 Day Fiancé, issues with casting in today's media, and advocates for the well-being of child actors. Plus, they discuss their love for the Fast & Furious franchise, Patti ...
10.30.2020 Volunteering in Your Community (w/ Mitra Jouhari) Comedian Mitra Jouhari (Big Mouth, Three Busy Debras, host of Urgent Care) joins Nicole to discuss missing malls, the horrors of dating in high school, awkward Zoom auditions, and reminisce about their improv days in NY. Plus, Mitra talks about ...
10.23.2020 Advice from a Dating Coach (w/ Damona Hoffman) Dating coach Damona Hoffman (A&E Network's #BlackLove, A Question of Love) is here to dish some professional advice. She shares tips for video-dating, setting up your dating app profile, how to stay sane with your partner in lockdown, and so ...
10.16.2020 We're Thirsty (w/ Nichole Perkins) Writer and podcaster Nichole Perkins (Thirst Aid Kit) joins Nicole to discuss setting boundaries in your casual relationships, dealing with thirsty groupies, and, can you get COVID from your pussy? Plus Nicole writes a letter to her dream man, and ...
10.09.2020 Rock Bottom (w/ Sydnee Washington) Comedian and actress Sydnee Washington (Broad City, Gayme Show) joins Nicole to discuss feel-good foods to eat when you're sad, their lowest points in life, finding love on Instagram, and setting boundaries with toxic family members. Support Black Lives Matter. ...
10.02.2020 Signs He's Into You (w/ Yassir Lester) It's our longest episode ever! Comedian Yassir Lester (Black Monday, Duncanville) joins Nicole to discuss sex protocol for a COVID era, reconnecting with old flings, body modifications, Yassir's Jersey Mike's tweet, and a list of signs that a man is ...
09.25.2020 Joking Around (w/ Yamaneika Saunders) The incredibly funny Yamaneika Saunders (Broad City, Inside Amy Schumer) joins Nicole to discuss comedy, following her mom's love for stand-up, her defense for humor about people with disabilities, and the depths of racism in our society. After the break, ...
09.18.2020 From Race Chaser to Husband (w/ Latrice Royale) Drag queen Latrice Royale (RuPaul's Drag Race, RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars) joins Nicole for a good teeheehee. She discusses getting into drag on a dare, writing on AJ and the Queen, meeting their husband Chris at a meet & ...
09.11.2020 America Scammed Us (w/ Dewayne Perkins) Comedian and writer Dewayne Perkins (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Break with Michelle Wolf) joins Nicole to talk about getting back together with his ex, the importance of checking in with your partner, and how America has failed everyone. They also get ...
09.04.2020 Lady Game (w/ Sam Jay) Comedian Sam Jay (writer at SNL) discusses how she met her girlfriend, the influence of wealth in a relationship, and the difference between flirting with men and women. Sam teaches Nicole about bad bitch energy, and how she developed her ...
08.28.2020 The World is Really Shitty and I'm Alone (w/ Ziwe) Ziwe (writer for Desus & Mero) and Nicole chat about being horn'd up, what they've been crying over, and are trying to learn to love what they see in the mirror. Nicole's back on the apps, where it seems like ...
08.21.2020 Class Clown on the Plantation (w/ Amber Ruffin) Writer and actress Amber Ruffin(Late Night with Seth Meyers, A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about the weight of having to discuss politics on Late Night, how they can make racism funny, and what the upcoming Zoom Emmy ...
08.14.2020 Code-Switching (w/ Gabby Sidibe) Gabby Sidibe (Precious, American Horror Story, Empire) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black women are often dealbreakers for Black men, and the crazy story behind dating a gay man for ...
08.07.2020 Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay) Oh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story ...
07.31.2020 Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman) 'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud?' Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal) joins Nicole to unpack racial traumas from childhood, discuss the systematic racism in society, ...
07.24.2020 White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods) Actress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole discuss rollerblading and sewing in quarantine, and argue why 2020 is actually a good year. Plus, Nicole attends ...
07.17.2020 Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen) Drag queen The Vixen (Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail they receive, and how appearing on the show lead to an amicable break in ...
07.10.2020 Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen) "I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man." Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social ...
07.03.2020 Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha) Actress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to include disability in ...
06.26.2020 If You See It, You Can Be It (w/ Kirby Howell-Baptiste) Actress Kirby Howell-Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Why Women Kill) discusses the rise in "Karens", managing life after death, and the reality of the Black experience. Plus, they share personal stories of racial bias, the importance of seeing representation in ...
06.19.2020 Foundations of a Successful Relationship (w/ AJA) Rapper and former drag queen AJA (RuPaul's Drag Race S9, All Stars S3) catches up with Nicole on the #BlackLivesMatter protests, discussing Black history erasure and how people can be a good ally in the movement. AJA dishes on Drag ...
06.12.2020 How to Date Virtually (w/ Jinkx Monsoon) "Sex is always better when you can be yourself during it" Jinkx Monsoon (Winner of Rupaul's Drag Race S5) dishes about fulfilling race chaser fantasies, heteronormative roleplay, how their Grindr use has changed since being on Drag Race, and so ...
06.05.2020 Butt Stuff (w/ Monét X Change) Drag queen Monét X Change (RuPaul's Drag Race, winner of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars S4) shares the story about how they got their first STD from a race chaser, breaking up with their partner on Thanksgiving, and offers tips ...
05.29.2020 Embrace Your Sloppy (w/ Michelle Buteau) The wonderful comedian Michelle Buteau (Always Be My Maybe, host of The Circle) discusses owning her sexuality, raising twins, being denied the ability to adopt kids, and so much more. Nicole and Michelle share their worst moments getting drunk on ...
05.22.2020 Don't Comment on my Body (w/ BenDeLaCreme) BenDeLaCreme (RuPaul's Drag Race, RPDR All Stars) chats about how he deals with other people's traumas, getting gaslight by their therapist, and whats it's like to move in with a new boyfriend right before the pandemic. Plus, he explains his ...
05.15.2020 Fast n' Friendly Divorce (w/ Giulia Rozzi) Oh boy, this episode is a juicy one. Comedian/actress Giulia Rozzi (Girl Code) speaks to Nicole about the struggles of being pregnant in quarantine, if she has any worries about raising a bi-racial child, and learning to not feel guilty ...
05.08.2020 Doing Your Own Hair (w/ Tawny Newsome) Comedian Tawny Newsome (Space Force) chats with Nicole about learning how to do your own hair in quarantine, their crazy fashion phases, and the current state of "Zoom dating" along with the crazy logistics behind it. For more Nicole Byer, ...
05.01.2020 Quarantine Breakup (w/ Jamie Loftus) "On what date do you reveal you're a merperson?" Comedian and TV writer Jamie Loftus (Robot Chicken, host of The Bechdel Cast) theorizes what it must be like being broken up but quarantined together, shares her fascination with balloon fetishists, ...
04.24.2020 Instagram DM Sex (w/ Ira Madison III) Ira Madison III (TV writer, host of Keep It) chats about how he's staying sane while quarantine alone, his guest appearance on You, and how he's having sex over Instagram. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - ...
04.17.2020 Third Wheel in a Quarantine (w/ Tommy Lenk) "Marriage should be a lease with an option to renew" Tommy Lenk (Buffy the Vampire Slayer, host of Trashcast) shares his ideas to modernize marriage, points out the archaic rules of straight dating, and talks about his experience living in ...
04.10.2020 Saying Yes to the Dress (w/ Megan Gailey) Comedian Megan Gailey (Conan, Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon) chats with Nicole about life as a newlywed in quarantine, the horrors of wedding dress shopping, and the freaks using dating apps right now. Plus, how early is it acceptable to ...
04.03.2020 Loving Your Boobs (w/ Amy Miller) Stand-up comedian & Nicole's opener Amy Miller (host of Who's Your God) teaches us how to spot a chucklefucker, shares her experience going through Steve Harvey's 90 day sex rule, and how to feel powerful giving a blowjob. Plus, a ...
03.27.2020 Dating During Coronavirus (w/ Jacquis Neal) "We're all just on Zoom trying to date people?" Jacquis Neal (host of Culture Kings) joins us remotely while in quarantine to discuss what it's like being cooped up with your S/O in isolation, how people are dating during the ...
03.20.2020 Love (w/ Paul Rust) Paul Rust (Love, Comedy Bang! Bang!, Arrested Development) has been married for 5 years. He discusses what it's like to date and work with his partner, the differences between his show 'Love' and his real love life, and bare boner ...
03.13.2020 Recognizing your Self-Worth (w/ Nicolette Mason) "Everyone that I thought was 'the one', was a piece of trash." Nicolette Mason (plus-size fashion blogger) joins Nicole to discuss the latest dating buzzwords of 2020, reflecting on your self-worth, whether they've dated fans, and so much more. For ...
03.06.2020 Open Relationships (w/ Kelly Hudson) "My life's work was dating people." Kelly Hudson (Search Party, Sunnyside, CollegeHumor) left her open-relationship to be with the man she's married to today. She shares her tricky experience dating 4 people at once, her first rules for dating in ...
03.03.2020 BONUS: The Struggles of your Twenties (w/ Rae Sanni) Writer/stand-up Rae Sanni (The Good Place, A Black Lady Sketch Show) joins Nicole to discuss all the struggles of their twenties, and how it has defined them. From the string of bad sex, hustling for money, dealing with colorism in ...
02.28.2020 Seeking Single Men at Target (w/ Janelle James) Janelle James (stand-up, writer for Black Mondays) joins Nicole to discuss the difference between East coast and West coast men, when to let a guy see you without makeup, and the best time to find single men at Target. Plus, ...
02.21.2020 Unpacking Nicole's Fear of Relationships (w/ Jess Rona) "Once both people like each other, the games are over." Close friend and dog groomer Jess Rona (Author of Groomed) has a heart-to-heart with Nicole to unpack her fears of being in a relationship. They also read some crazy dating ...

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