It’s 2 a.m.

The house is finally quiet. Everyone’s asleep. You should be asleep.

But instead, you’re lying in the dark, replaying that moment from earlier today. Or yesterday. Or last week. Or maybe even months ago.

The thing you said during the meltdown. The way your voice got sharp when you were already running on empty. The look on their face when you snapped. The call with the caseworker where you didn’t advocate hard enough. The court hearing where you froze and forgot everything you wanted to say.

You keep rewinding. Replaying. Analyzing every word, every pause, every reaction.

If only I had said it differently.

If only I had stayed calm.

If only I had done more.

And then the shame spiral kicks in: What kind of foster mom does that? They’ve already been through so much. They needed me to be steady. And I wasn’t.

If this is you — if you’ve spent more nights than you can count mentally replaying moments you wish you could take back — I need you to hear something.

You’re not broken. You’re not failing. And you’re definitely not alone.

What you’re experiencing has a name. And more importantly, there’s a way through it.

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