Marni goes deep in this episode uncovering the factors that contribute to emotional trauma and how they may be holding us back in dating and relationships. Her guest, Dr. Besel van der Kolk is a clinical doctor, researcher, professor, and author who specializes in post-traumatic stress. His book, The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma is a New York Times Science bestseller.

With Dr. Bessel van der Kolk: How to Create an Emotional Connection in a Relationship, Even if You’ve Been Burned

Dating coach, Marni Battista, is the queen of making her clients irresistible to men and not just any men, high quality men.  Marni is a certified professional Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, writer, and nationally recognized print and online magazine expert (Cosmopolitan Magazine, Yahoo! Shine, Huffington Post, YourTango.com, CupidsPulse.com, Men’s Fitness, Glamour and more).  She has also had guest appearances on CBS, ABC, and Loveline (filling in for Dr. Drew!) Marni’s weekly dating and relationship web show, “The Dating Den,” has over 2.6 million views, and she was named one of the 10 Best Women’s Dating Experts by @DatingAdviceCom.​

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Marni welcomes Bobby Frank to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves in the dynamics of a lasting relationship. Bobby who has been married for 31 years is currently working on his book, "The Unimpeachable Wife: Developing a Million Dollar Bank Account and a Million Dollar Family." For this episode, Marni and Bobby discuss the secrets to success and longevity within a relationship.  Self-reflection, authenticity and personal growth are all part of it. When each person focuses on themselves first, it creates a solid foundation for a successful partnership.   *         How to introspect *         What are the ABC’s of marriage? *         How to be Honest   We Need to Talk About Us [04:33]   Don’t focus on the wrong end of the spectrum of marriage or a relationship. The key is to focus on what you both need and want, rather than only prioritizing on your partner.   Don’t violate other principles just because you think something is correct   Honesty Really is The Best Policy [13:14]   It’s been said over and over again because it’s true. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. Stop saying the things you think your partner wants to hear and start saying how you feel.    That’s how you develop a friendship as well.   The Unspoken Conversation [20:56]   What are the ABCs of marriage? It is knowing that your partner will not trade you in for the newer model, it is knowing that they will love you even in sickness. It is the important questions that keep you together in the long turn.   And c is, can you love me with cancer? Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          How to Eliminate Burnout: How to use the Radical Living Blueprint to Reinvent Your Life ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Transform Your Life Today- Stop2Start Life Coaching Online  

Life Check Yourself 448 –  This is why happy people still cheat in a relationship with Bobby Frank

Marni welcomes Nicole Russo to the Life Check Yourself studio. A personal stylist to high-achievers and executives, Nicole opened her own styling shopping service in 2017 and has styled thousands of people since. The duo discusses the most effective way to declutter, how to find your style and why dressing well means being empowered. How you dress, when it’s authentic, is a reflection of who you are and who you want to be.   *         How to dress for power *         Avoid impulse purchases *         How to cleanse your closet   It’s Not Any Less Feminist to Dress the Part [05:11]   The way you dress impacts the way you’re perceived and the way you feel. Fashion can be wielded as a powerful tool to propel your life in the direction that you want it to go in.   You definitely need to be careful in that it has to feel authentic, or else it’s not really going to empower you. It has to feel like you in some way.   Declutter Your Emotions and Your Closet [17:27]   Your closet is a reflection of you. It’s murmurs of who you were or who you didn’t become. Or even the dreams you held on to. But, perhaps it’s time to declutter. Let go of the items you don’t wear anymore so that you can be who you are now.   Our closets are a metaphor for our life.   Get Creative [20:00]   Experiment by wearing something new each day or each week to inspire creativity. Finding your style should be fun.   I find that you get a better sense of who you are, and it becomes like a creative fun process instead of a stressful one.   Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          How to Eliminate Burnout: How to use the Radical Living Blueprint to Reinvent Your Life ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Let's Get You- A Free Guide To Edit Your Closet  

Life Check Yourself 447 – "Drive Him Wild With These 3 Irresistible Date Outfits" with Nicole Russo

Marni welcomes Shanenn Bryant to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to crack the control code and transform the way we view jealousy. Shanenn is a jealousy and relationship confidence expert. She’s also the host of the Top Self podcast and founder of self-development company, Top Self. It’s not just about eradicating jealousy but understanding that this feeling isn’t the problem, but rather a symptom of it. And the answers can be found by examining yourself.    *         Focus on yourself *         Lengthen the space between trigger and response *         How to foster self-awareness   What’s Jealousy Got to Do With it? [05:35]   Jealous stems from somewhere internal, from a place of insecurity. And that could either be because of some type of dysfunction in your childhood or because you went through a bad experience in a romantic relationship. Either way, to understand the feeling itself, you need to look at yourself and ask the right questions.   It doesn’t necessarily have to always be that it was a cheating incident. I felt like I was insecure and jealous before that ever happened.   Make Room for Accountability [14:49]   While it may be difficult to do so in certain situations, it’s important to take responsibility rather than blame your partner straight away. Self-awareness is key.   You cannot change something that is blocking you, unless you really take a look at what you think, do, and say.   Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries [21:10]   Before getting into a relationship, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation about boundaries, particularly those regarding interactions with exes. It allows both partners to understand each other’s expectations.   Have that conversation to figure out what that relationship is like beforehand and then you make the decision if that’s a relationship you want to be in.   Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training* ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Live A Life Of Confidence- TOP SELF (Book a Call)

Life Check Yourself 446 –  Overcome jealousy in 3 minutes with Shanenn Bryant

Marni welcomes Paget Kagy to the Life Check Yourself studio. A Korean-American actress, writer, and empowerment coach, Paget is fueled by her passion for challenging societal norms. Paget, a frequency healer and spiritual coach, discusses the significance of operating from a deeper level rather than superficially judging oneself and as a consequence, others as well. The duo speak about the power of detachment and embracing uncertainty to connect with one’s higher self. *         How to dream bigger *         How to identify your blind spot *         Step out of your comfort zone   Are you Hitting a Wall? [11:04]   Energy blocks or energy patterns are basically patterns where you keep hitting up against the same situation. Sometimes, it might be different people or situations but it’s the same pattern over and over again. It doesn’t matter what you try to do,  you end up attracted to those things. And they end up attracted to you.   Un-stuck [14:12]   Sometimes, we don’t even realize that we’re stuck. And that’s the case for a lot of us. But once you identify that you are stuck, you can begin to release patterns that have been keeping you stunted. Everything is open to us at all times.   Connecting with Yourself [21:40]   To connect with someone else on a deeper level, you need to first connect with yourself. Understand that it’s not about the outcome. It’s about you taking the necessary steps from a place of worthiness. The universe delivers it  to you in a way that you can’t predict or plan for.   Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training* ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Quantum Shift Accelerator- Free Mini Course  

Life Check Yourself 445 – How to VISUALIZE correctly so you can MANIFEST Faster with Paget Kagy

Marni welcomes Lily Womble to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses what holds successful women back from truly flourishing in the dating world? Lily, who shot to fame after a viral TikTok video is the founder and CEO of DateBrazen.com. She’s helped women overcome personal obstacles to achieve confidence and whole dating lives. It’s not just about finding the right relationship but about understanding what is keeping you stagnating. *         How to live in your main character energy *         You’re not too anything *         Ask for what you want out loud   The Slot Machines of Dating [10:59]   Dating apps are built like slot machines; they’re designed to keep you wanting a little more. They give you just enough of what you need so that you come back for more.   It’s going to give you enough of the good stuff to keep you coming back, but not enough of the good stuff to get you in a relationship.     How to Really Move Forward [18:08]   Getting into the relationship isn’t the prize for healing. Healing is for you. And once you’ve done that, the relationship comes. Don’t compare your own dating life or relationship to others because you don’t know what is actually happening behind closed doors. None of us do.   The only thing separating people, I believe from finding the right relationship is giving themselves permission to want what they want.   Trust Yourself [23:44]   It seems obvious but self-trust is at the root of healing. Trust yourself to bless and release the people who are wrong for you. And don’t look back.   The more swiftly you bless and release the wrong people, the more swiftly you’ll find yourself in the best relationship.   Make a Connection: ·          3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training* ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          The Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love   

With Dr. Bessel van der Kolk: How to Create an Emotional Connection in a Relationship, Even if You’ve Been Burned

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