#274 You Ask, We Answer - 47

Our monthly YAWA episode - when Michelle and Christy answer all the pressing questions you want answers to. This month's questions are definitely going to take you across a few different spectrums from the challenges the grandparents you love pose, all the way to Destination Weddings.

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Question 1:

How do I deal with a grandparent who doesn’t seem to want to listen to our needs and requests? I.e.: not respecting no photography rules, getting in people’s faces and way. Do you guys have any advice on how to deal with family dynamics like this? Not inviting him really isn’t an option, because that would cause even more drama. Anything would be much appreciated!

Question 2:

My fiancé (35M) and I (30F) finally decided on a venue that we wanted. The date we want (a Thursday in June) was available at an amazing venue in Key West. So a destination wedding. We were very excited to get moving with some real tangible plans. After reviewing their required/ preferred vendors list. Just after the caterer our budget is hit.

The budget I'd like to stick to is 15,000- 20,000 absolute max.

After emailing the the venue wedding planners, asking them for advice to keep the wedding within budget I got the following response.

"Well another option could be to have the wedding ceremony here and maybe have a reception at a restaurant? They tend to be a bit cheaper. For 50-60 people this will definitely bring you to the top of your budget with food and alcohol. Maybe inquire with Bagatelle or first flight they will be able to accommodate your size party and might be able to keep you on budget? "

I guess, I just don't understand how I could have saved up so much money and that can't cover a reasonably small party. Personally, I don't like the idea of leaving the venue for a dinner reception.

I went on Wedding Report for my town and it says that based on the answers I gave I could achieve a wedding around 18k-25k for 75-100people. My fiancé doesn't want to get married here, so that doesn't really feel like a back up plan.

Should I keep pricing things out in Key West? Thanks for at least letting me vent a little.

Question 3:

What are the thoughts on shape wear and when to get the shape wear? Should you get it before dress consultation?

Question 4:

Instead of going the traditional catering event, they decided to use a restaurant that will set up the buffet. Without needing servers, they are looking for people to help with pouring water, cutting cake, etc, how do we find a staff? What do we look up to find the right help?

Question 5:

We are having a 40 person wedding. How do you feel about DJs? Our families are a mix of partiers/dancers and those that just want to sit. Is a DJ awkward with 40 people?

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