Fetishes - Sex Gone Sideways

We finish February, Valentine's month discussing FETISHES and S&M is another example of Human Disconnect. When bonding to humans is just too painful, it is easier to redirect that energy to objects. After all, objects can't break your heart, right? A classical case of classical conditioning, when sexuality and the Big O is paired with visual or tactile stimuli like shoes, or leather, just about ANYTHING, the brain makes that association and the object becomes the "cue" for the arousal. In sadomasochistic relationships there is an enactment of the hurter and the hurtee--another example of bonding gone wrong at CAUSE--Mother-Infant disconnect. When we are infants and out of control over our lives and our safety and our ability to control pain, we will often re-enact it in a WTF or What The Freud Repetition manner. The role play allows us to gain control of possible past wounds of childhood. Bondage, like childhood is a hostage situation, meaning that we have no choice who our parents are, how we are treated, and mostly NO CONTROL over it. Through S&M we can voluntarily control the actions and pain. Today we shrunk the tune ROPE BURN by Janet Jackson.