Matters of the Heart - 2

When it comes to matters of the heart, it is vital that we put our hands in the heart of another where the feelings flow both ways. The word is MUTUALITY. To have a healthy loving relationship, it must be reciprocal or else one will feel like they are "taken from" as the other may feel that they are "giving too much." Although men and problem solvers and women love to be heard, there is always a language of mutuality where things can be negotiated so that there is created an interconnection and needs are met. THIS is what we are after, and have always been after. From the beginning of life, we want connection, unconditional love, to be attuned to, and safety. When we get into a relationship and any of these aspects are missing, it calls up the old files of mother-infant disconnect, the beginning of all emotional wounds. Relationships CAN be healing. We can grow through old wounds and help each other heal in the context of a loving, safe, mutually satisfying relationship where we can help our loved one have a corrective emotional experience. Remembering on Valentine's Day and Always, Love, is the most powerful and under-utilized healing force on the Planet. Today, we shrunk the tune DO I WANNA KNOW by the Arctic Monkeys