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Before I say anything else, I need to acknowledge what this moment is. Episode 313 of Empowered and Unapologetic. The final episode.

Even typing that makes my chest tighten a little.

I don’t know if this is a goodbye, a see you later, or a long exhale so I can hear myself think again. And honestly, that uncertainty feels fitting. Because that’s how endings actually arrive. Not with fireworks. Not with a neat bow. But quietly. After a long stretch of holding, pushing, creating, surviving, showing up.

We live in a culture obsessed with beginnings. New habits. New goals. New versions of you. Reinvent, upgrade, optimize.

But we rarely honor endings.

Let me say this clearly, because I need to hear it too:

“An ending does not mean something failed. Often it means something worked.”

This podcast worked. It held courage. It held truth. It held your stories. It held mine. It reached people I will never fully understand the impact of. And because it worked, it reached a natural edge.

Not a cliff. An edge.

Edges are where growth pauses. Where honesty asks for space. Where something new wants to emerge but isn’t ready to be named yet.

Most women don’t allow themselves to end things this way. We wait until we’re burned out. Bitter. Resentful. Numb. That’s not what this is. This is intentional. And intention feels very different from collapse.

As mothers especially, our lives are shaped by endings we don’t always name. The end of pregnancy. The end of sleepless nights. The end of being needed constantly. The end of the woman you were before kids.

And then one day, your daughter is in a sorority across the country. Another is moving out. The youngest makes her own breakfast and goes to dinner at the mall like a grown adult. And you’re sitting there thinking, when did this happen?

There is a space we almost never talk about. The space between who you were and who you’re becoming.

“This is not a problem to fix. This is a developmental passage.”

When you’re in that in between, you might feel foggy. Emotional. Unmotivated. Like nothing quite fits anymore. That doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means the old version of you has done her job.

And that version deserves gratitude.

But gratitude does not require permanence.

“Gratitude does not require permanence.”

I can love this podcast. I can be proud of it. I can honor what it gave me and what it gave you. And I can still let it go.

That has been one of the hardest lessons of my life. I have batched episodes while exhausted. Recorded through tears. Played catch up because I believed I had to keep producing to matter. But here’s a truth I’m integrating in real time: my worth is not tied to output.

And neither is yours.

You are allowed to pause without having a plan. You are allowed to close a chapter without immediately replacing it. You do not have to define the next chapter yet.

Pressure blocks wisdom. Rest creates clarity.

Some seasons exist to create space, not outcomes.

Right now, I am in a season of integration. My body is changing. My marriage is evolving. My children are stepping into independence. My business is shifting. I am not who I was five years ago. And that’s not a crisis. That’s growth.

If you’re standing in an ending right now, I want you to ask yourself gently: What season of my life is ending? What did it give me? What did it cost me? What parts of me am I ready to release?

You are not lost. You are not late. You are not broken.

You are in a passage.

Beginnings get all the attention, but endings deserve care too. This podcast held a season of my life. It did its job. And there is wisdom in knowing when a form has done its job.

This is bye for now, not forever.

Some endings are not conclusions. They are quiet invitations to begin again. More honestly. More aligned. More gently.

And I am so excited to see who I become next.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

• Join our FaceBook Page – Empowered and Unapologetic

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

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Let’s just say it out loud.

So many high-achieving, capable, driven women are crushing it in business… and quietly struggling in the bedroom.

When I sat down with Susan Bratton, intimacy expert and founder of Better Lover, she did not tiptoe around the issue. Within minutes she said what most women are thinking but rarely say:

“The sex is really bad, totally boring and unsatisfying.”

And the worst part? We assume it’s our fault.

We schedule it. We squeeze it in. We perform. We offer what she hilariously calls “mercy sex.” We carry the mental load all day and then somehow believe we should magically flip into seductress mode at night.

But here’s what Susan reframed in a powerful way: sexual disconnection is not a failure. It’s an opportunity.

The Opportunity Inside Disconnection

If you once enjoyed sex with your partner, that means the capacity is there.

The issue is not that you are broken.
The issue is that you were never taught what you actually need.

As Susan put it:

“Everything in our culture is made for penis happiness, not vulva happiness.”

Mic drop.

Most women were never taught that desire is responsive, not spontaneous. That we need time. Warmth. Context. Emotional safety. Blood flow. And that if we are rushed to intercourse before we are even turned on, of course it feels disappointing.

Of course we pull away.

Disconnection is often the result of a system that never centered women’s pleasure to begin with.

Burnout in the Bedroom

If you carry the emotional load at home, burnout shows up physically.

You feel touched out.
Overstimulated.
Resentful.
Numb.

And resentment is not an aphrodisiac.

Susan’s solution was bold and specific: slow everything down and separate pleasure from performance.

Instead of sex being the goal, she encourages couples to begin with what she calls yoni massage. Time set aside purely for warming up, relaxing, reconnecting with sensation. No pressure for intercourse. No obligation to “finish.”

Why does that matter?

Because when your nervous system feels safe and unrushed, your body can actually respond.

And here is the part that made me laugh and also nod vigorously:

“He wants to do a good job and he wants to be respected.”

Men are not mind readers. They need a checklist. They need direction. They need clarity.

So instead of hoping he guesses what you want, tell him. Teach him. Train him. And when he shows up, appreciate him.

Assertiveness is not aggression. It is intimacy.

Tiny Shifts That Change Everything

Susan offered three deceptively simple shifts that can dramatically change the emotional tone of your relationship:

1. Teach him the four types of touch: nurturing, healing, sensual, and sexual. Most men jump straight to sexual. Expand the menu.

Schedule intimacy without expecting instant desire. Show up knowing arousal can grow together.

This is what she calls integrity-based micro actions. No confrontation. No begging. Just clear leadership.

Reclaiming Your Own Body

One of the most powerful moments for me was when Susan said:

“Orgasms are all learned skills.”

That means if you have never had one, you are not broken. You simply have not learned yet.

Start small. Three minutes a day. Touch. Explore. Breathe. Build neural pathways. Create familiarity with your own body.

Because when you reconnect with yourself, you stop outsourcing your worth.

And here’s the truth I want every woman to hear:

You can always get it back.

Long-term love goes through seasons. Burnout seasons. Resentment seasons. Disconnection seasons. But spark is not reserved for the early years.

With communication, courage, and a willingness to slow down, intimacy can deepen in ways you did not even know were possible.

And if you need permission to start? Consider this it.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

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5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Susan Bratton

SUSAN BRATTON, “Intimacy Expert to Millions,” is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Susan is co-founder and CEO of two companies: Personal Life Media, Inc., a publisher of the Better Lover brand of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills, and regenerative therapies, as well as The20, LLC., a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance vitality. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs, including Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot.

http://susanbratton.com/

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

Did you enjoy this podcast? Feel free to share this podcast on social media! You can also leave a review of the Empowered and Unapologetic Podcast on Apple Podcast {previously iTunes) and subscribe!

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There is a specific kind of ache that shows up in motherhood when your kids get older. It is not the exhaustion of diapers or carpools. It is the quiet fear that creeps in when your teen or adult child pulls away and you wonder if saying no will cost you the relationship altogether.

I see this in my therapy office every week. I feel it in my own body as a mom of three daughters in very different stages of life. And I named it directly on the podcast because too many women are suffering silently through it.

Setting boundaries with teens and adult children is uniquely painful because the stakes feel impossibly high. As Jennifer Collins shared in our conversation,

“Setting boundaries with them feels like a really high-stakes situation. There’s a lot on the line here.”

When your child pushes back, shuts down, or reacts defensively, it can trigger a deep fear of disconnection. Many moms cave not because they are weak, but because they are terrified of losing access to their child’s life.

But here is the truth I want you to hear clearly. Boundaries are not what damage relationships. Unclear expectations, unspoken resentment, and self-abandonment do.

Why Boundaries Feel So Hard With Older Kids

With teens and adult children, we are no longer parenting from full control. We are parenting in the space between influence and letting go. That space is emotionally brutal.

Jennifer named something powerful in our conversation that I see over and over again.

“The boundaries you set really have to come from a place where you’re grounded first.”

When we set boundaries from fear, guilt, or panic, they tend to fall apart. We threaten consequences we do not follow through on. We lecture instead of clarify. We react instead of respond.

That is when power struggles take over and everyone loses.

Boundaries Are Not About Control

One of the biggest shifts for moms is understanding that boundaries are not tools to force our children to change. They are decisions about how we will show up.

Jennifer said it plainly.

“Boundaries are not about getting somebody else to change. Boundaries are about deciding how you show up in your life.”

This matters deeply with teens and adult children because there are many situations we cannot control. College life. Drinking. Relationships. Mistakes we wish they would not make.

At some point, the boundary is not with your child. It is with yourself.

That boundary sounds like this: I have taught her. I have equipped him. I cannot control every outcome, and I can sit with the discomfort that creates.

Consequences That Are Loving and Effective

Boundaries mean nothing without consequences, but consequences do not have to be cruel. They must be clear, enforceable, and within your control.

When expectations are vague, consequences become chaotic. When expectations are specific, consequences feel fair.

A healthy boundary includes:

• A clear expectation

A consequence you are actually willing to follow through on

Not to punish, but to align behavior with reality.

The Identity Shift No One Warns You About

When kids stop needing us the same way, many women feel invisible. Lost. Untethered.

This is where boundary work becomes deeply personal. It is not just about parenting. It is about identity.

“Our kids aren’t there to create our validation and our sense of wholeness.”

This stage of motherhood asks us to reclaim parts of ourselves we put on hold. Our voice. Our values. Our peace.

Setting boundaries is not pushing your child away. It is pulling yourself back into your own life.

And that is not selfish. It is necessary.

If you are in this season, feeling torn between love and limits, know this. You are not failing. You are evolving. And boundaries are not the end of connection. They are the beginning of a more honest one.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

• Join our FaceBook Page – Empowered and Unapologetic

5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Jennifer Collins

Jennifer Collins is a Master Life Coach and Founder of The Small Jar. She empowers moms of teens and young adults to release the anxiety of holding on and embrace the freedom of letting their children soar—while rediscovering themselves in the process. Through her signature program, Mom 2.0, she helps women navigate the heartbreak of kids pulling away, set boundaries that actually work, and create peace and connection without needing their children to change. Jennifer is also the creator and host of The Almost Empty Nest Podcast, where she shares stories and strategies to approach motherhood’s biggest transitions with clarity and courage. As the mom of two college-aged sons, she knows firsthand the mix of pride, loss, and possibility this season brings—and is passionate about helping women see it as the beginning of their most meaningful chapter yet.

http://www.thesmalljar.com

https://www.facebook.com/smalljarcoach

https://www.instagram.com/smalljarcoach

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

Did you enjoy this podcast? Feel free to share this podcast on social media! You can also leave a review of the Empowered and Unapologetic Podcast on Apple Podcast {previously iTunes) and subscribe!

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I hit record with Wendy Valentine and immediately spiraled because my screen froze, my notes disappeared, and I said something I will not repeat in polite company. But honestly, it was the perfect start to a conversation about reinvention, boundaries, and the messy middle of becoming yourself again.

Because if you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, This can’t be it even though you’ve checked every box, marriage, motherhood, career, the whole “good girl” starter pack, you’re not broken. You’re waking up.

Wendy Valentine is a reinvention expert, empowerment coach, author of Women Waking Up, and host of The Midlife Makeover Show. She’s also a living, breathing receipt that life can absolutely hit you with a full combo meal and you can still come out the other side stronger. Wendy went through divorce, menopause, job loss, debt, illness, and grief in a brutally short window of time, and instead of letting it flatten her, she rebuilt.

Not into a “new and improved Wendy.” Into the first real version of Wendy.

“Not only can you get through it, but you can thrive through it. You can come out on the other side and kick some serious ass.”

That energy is not motivational poster energy. That’s lived experience energy.

One of my favorite moments was when Wendy said something that hit me right in the chest: we try to be all things to all people, but not all things to ourselves. And I felt personally attacked, because I was literally complaining about my body, my ankle, my stress, my everything… while refusing to take care of myself like I’m someone worth caring for.

So I finally did what we tell everyone else to do. I got help. I made changes. I stopped acting surprised that my body was begging for attention when I’d been ignoring it like an unread email from my own soul.

Wendy calls this season what it is: midlife is not the end. It’s the beginning, if you let it be.

She shared one of the most powerful mindset shifts I’ve heard in a long time: stop obsessing over the what, when, where, and how. Focus on the who. Who are you becoming. Who is the woman you want to be.

Because the dream isn’t the RV, or Portugal, or the new business. The dream is the woman sitting in the driver’s seat of her own life.

“You have to become the person that can make that dream come true.”

Then we got into the boundary work, which is where a lot of women start sweating. Wendy teaches the 4Ds: Define, Decide, Declare, Dedicate.

Define what’s okay and what’s not.
Decide what you will do when the boundary gets tested.
Declare it calmly when the moment arrives.
Dedicate yourself to holding it.

Because a boundary written in pencil is basically a suggestion.

And then we talked about guilt, the emotional weapon moms carry like it’s part of the diaper bag. Wendy said something I want you to tattoo on your forehead, backwards, so you can see it in the mirror:

“I can hand you a jar of guilt, right? Like, you’re the one that chooses.”

Whew.

Guilt shows up and tries to run the house, but you can challenge it. You can get curious about it. You can decide if it’s telling the truth or just repeating what you were taught.

Toward the end, Wendy dropped an analogy that belongs in a therapy session and a TED Talk. She referenced Michelangelo carving David: he didn’t create him, he revealed him, by chipping away everything that wasn’t him.

That’s reinvention.

Not adding more pressure, more roles, more hustle. It’s removing what’s not you. The people pleasing. The approval chasing. The “I guess this is just my life now” resignation.

Because the real you is still in there. Waiting. Breathing shallow. Hoping you’ll come back.

And maybe this is your sign.

Not to blow up your whole life overnight, but to stop abandoning yourself one small compromise at a time.

You don’t need permission to become her again.

You just need to start.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

• Join our FaceBook Page – Empowered and Unapologetic

5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Kamini Wood

Wendy Valentine is a reinvention expert, empowerment coach, and the author of Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Play. She’s also the creator and host of The Midlife Makeover Show, the #1 podcast inspiring women worldwide to embrace midlife as a powerful new beginning.

After navigating divorce, menopause, job loss, debt, and an empty nest—all at once—Wendy stopped living on autopilot and started designing a life that finally felt like her own. Her journey from breakdown to breakthrough fuels everything she does.

Today, Wendy helps women kick fear to the curb, reconnect with their purpose, and create bold, joy-fueled lives through her book, her FREEDOM coaching method, and her transformational programs. Whether she’s leading a group of women through guided meditations or road-tripping the U.S. in her motorhome, Wendy is on a mission to prove that it’s never too late to wake up to what’s possible.

She currently splits her time between Portugal and wherever the road takes her, living proof that life gets better—not smaller—with age.

https://wendyvalentine.com

https://www.instagram.com/wendy_valentine_

https://www.facebook.com/hellowendyvalentine

https://wendyvalentine.substack.com

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

Did you enjoy this podcast? Feel free to share this podcast on social media! You can also leave a review of the Empowered and Unapologetic Podcast on Apple Podcast {previously iTunes) and subscribe!

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There is an invisible weight so many women carry. You can see it in how capable they are, how dependable, how “together.” They are the ones holding the calendar, the marriage, the emotional temperature of the room. They are successful at work and exhausted at home. And somewhere between being needed and being praised, they quietly lose themselves.

That is why my conversation with Kamini Wood hit so deeply.

Kamini is a certified life coach, entrepreneur, and mom who understands people pleasing from the inside out. She lived the cycle of perfectionism, over giving, and chasing approval, only to realize that success without self trust still feels empty. Instead of ignoring that pain, she turned it into her purpose, helping high achieving women step out of burnout and into authentic living.

What we talked about was not surface level. It was about why smart, capable women still fall into people pleasing and how those patterns quietly erode intimacy in marriage and connection to self.

“Underneath people pleasing is often a belief of not being enough or needing to prove your worth in order to belong.”
— Kamini Wood

For many women, these patterns start early. Kamini shared how growing up as the daughter of immigrant parents and navigating a predominantly white environment shaped her desire to belong and not be a burden. That survival strategy followed her into adulthood. For others, the story looks different, but the belief is the same. If I keep everyone happy, I will be safe. I will be loved.

The problem is that people pleasing requires self abandonment. And when you abandon yourself long enough, anxiety, resentment, and emotional disconnection are not far behind.

One of the clearest signs Kamini sees is how disconnected women become from their own wants. Not knowing what you want for dinner. Deferring every decision. Feeling guilty for needing space. Living entirely inside your roles instead of your values.

“If you are constantly defining yourself by the roles you play, you lose sight of who you are and what you actually need.”
— Kamini Wood

In marriage, people pleasing can look like avoiding conflict, staying quiet to keep the peace, or doing emotional labor without asking for support. Women often believe this will create closeness, but it does the opposite. You cannot build intimacy while silencing yourself.

The turning point for Kamini came when she saw these patterns reflected in her own child. Combined with burnout and resentment, it became impossible to ignore.

“When we keep giving without boundaries, we eventually hit exhaustion and resentment. That is often the wake up call.”
— Kamini Wood

So where does change begin?

Kamini outlined three foundational steps. First, awareness. Naming that you are people pleasing instead of judging yourself for it. Second, reconnecting with your core needs and values. Third, identifying the false beliefs driving your behavior and gently challenging them.

Rebuilding self trust starts small. Choosing a parking spot. Making a decision without asking for reassurance. Noticing when your inner voice is actually guiding you well. Confidence grows through practice, not perfection.

And when it comes to boundaries, Kamini offered one powerful challenge. Say no to one thing today without explaining, defending, or justifying. Guilt may show up, but guilt is not a sign you did something wrong. It is a sign you are doing something new.

People pleasing does not make you a better wife, mom, or leader. It makes you disconnected from yourself. And the good news is that authenticity is not something you become. It is something you return to.

If this conversation resonates, ask yourself this tonight. Where have I been choosing approval over authenticity? And what would it look like to choose myself, just once, without apology?

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

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5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Kamini Wood

Growing up in a small Connecticut town as a first-generation American with immigrant parents, I navigated the complexities of identity and belonging. Feeling the pressure to blend in and seek external validation, I excelled academically and in helping others, driven by the belief that hard work equaled acceptance.

Becoming a mother of five while pursuing a career as a certified project manager, I realized my identity was externally defined. Raising high-performing young adults, I recognized people-pleasing behaviors in my children and felt a deep calling to reclaim my authenticity and self-leadership.

Seeking to realign with my true self, I embarked on a journey of self-discovery and self-validation. Becoming a certified life coach, I dove into my own self-work, learning to honor my feelings and emotions without judgment. Through self-compassion and self-love, I evolved into my own self-leader.

Today, as CEO and Founder of Live Joy Your Way and AuthenticMe®Life Coaching, I empower high-performing adults and young adults struggling with self-doubt and the need for external validation. My mission is to help others recognize their true value and stop outsourcing their self-worth.

Website https://www.kaminiwood.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/itsauthenticme/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaminiwood

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/itsauthenticme/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsauthenticme/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSVaEISjpaXsCdQGbE2lpUw

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

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If you have ever managed a budget with one hand and a bedtime routine with the other, welcome. You are among your people.

This week on Empowered and Unapologetic, I sat down with Tiffany Irving, a financial strategist with 25 years of experience helping families build wealth with actual intention. And before you assume this is going to be one of those “stop buying lattes” lectures, let me save you the stress. Tiffany hates that narrative too. Bless her.

Because the truth is, most working moms are not broke because they bought a coffee. They are overwhelmed because nobody taught them how to build financial clarity in a way that supports their relationship, their goals, and their nervous system.

And I know this because I had to get real, fast.

My husband and I bought an Airbnb townhouse as a business venture. We did the research. We planned. We furnished it like we were auditioning for a luxury magazine. And then reality hit: the market shifted, travel slowed, and that property started costing us about $7,000 a month when it was not fully booked.

That moment when you realize a “smart investment” is now a monthly stress bill is not cute. It is humbling. And it can turn a marriage into a financial courtroom if you are not careful.

So I asked Tiffany what so many women are silently wondering: why do successful women, especially breadwinners, struggle in relationships?

The answer is not “because you are too much.” The answer is that money carries power, fear, identity, and old baggage. Then you add gender roles, expectations, caregiving, and the pressure to be grateful for a life that is exhausting.

Tiffany put it plainly: couples have to talk about money like a team, not like opponents.

“You need to understand where it’s held, how it’s titled, how you access it, make sure you all have passwords.”

And if you are sitting there thinking, “Cool, I have none of that,” Tiffany gave a starting point that is not scary. She calls it the three P’s: prepare, plan, protect.

Prepare means getting honest about what you have and what you owe. Not vibes. Numbers. Assets, liabilities, rates, accounts, titles.

Then plan means building goals you both actually agree on. Retirement, college, travel, home ownership, business growth. Not just “we should save more,” but what are we saving for and how are we getting there.

And protect means making sure what you are building does not fall apart the second life happens. Insurance. Risk management. Estate planning. A real team. Not one person carrying all the knowledge and stress.

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.”

One of the biggest money mistakes Tiffany sees in high-achieving women is avoiding investing because it feels intimidating. Not because they are incapable, but because nobody taught them. And that has to change.

“Avoiding what we don’t necessarily understand today doesn’t mean you can’t get there.”

Here is the part I want you to take personally: the goal is not just to keep the money. The goal is to keep the marriage intact while you fix the money.

Because yes, money can be made again. But if your relationship becomes collateral damage, you will pay for it in ways no budget can cover.

So if you are silently suffering, successful on paper but exhausted inside, start here: get your numbers in front of you, pick one next step, and talk to your partner like you are on the same side. Then ask for help. A financial planner. A coach. A trusted referral. Somebody who can help you build a plan you can actually live with.

You do not have to hustle harder. You need better tools and real support.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

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5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Kayla Logue

Tiffany Irving, CFP®, CEPA® is a Senior Vice President and Wealth Advisor with Mesirow Wealth Management, bringing over 25 years of experience guiding families and nonprofit organizations through holistic financial planning and strategic investment management.

A first-generation college graduate, Tiffany began her career as an assistant at a financial firm and built her path step by step. Today, she is the breadwinner in her family and understands firsthand the pressure, responsibility, and decision fatigue that often accompany financial success. That lived experience shapes how she works with clients and why her passion is centered on educating and empowering women to confidently take control of their financial futures.

Tiffany specializes in working with high-net-worth individuals, families, and nonprofit organizations, helping them accumulate, grow, protect, and distribute wealth through customized, values-aligned strategies. Prior to joining Mesirow in 2021, she held senior leadership roles at BMO Private Wealth and U.S. Trust.

A frequent speaker and trusted voice in financial education, Tiffany regularly appears on WGN Radio’s Your Money Matters and is a member of the Mesirow Speakers Bureau. She is deeply involved in her community, serving on multiple boards and organizations focused on advocacy, healthcare, and women’s leadership.

Tiffany holds a degree in Finance from DePaul University, an MBA from the University of Phoenix, and maintains her CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® and Certified Exit Planning Advisor (CEPA®) designations.

https://www.mesirow.com/bio/tiffany-s-irving

https://www.linkedin.com/company/mesirow

https://www.youtube.com/user/MesirowFinancial

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

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Most women I work with are not lazy, unmotivated, or lacking discipline. They are exhausted. They wake up already behind, already needed, already responsible for everyone and everything. By the time they think about themselves, the day is over and the tank is empty.

That is why my conversation with Kayla Logue landed so deeply.

Kayla is a bestselling author, keynote speaker, multi unit franchise owner of Jet Set Pilates, and the founder of Move Into Words, a nonprofit focused on mental and physical wellness. She is also radically honest about what it actually takes to succeed without abandoning yourself in the process.

Five Minutes That Change Everything

When Kayla talks about journaling, she is not selling some aesthetic morning routine or a perfectly curated self care practice. She is talking about five minutes of truth.

Five minutes to pause.
Five minutes to get your thoughts out of your head and onto paper.
Five minutes to stop living on autopilot.

As she shared, journaling became a turning point during a season when her life looked fine on the outside but felt deeply misaligned on the inside. Writing gave her clarity she could not outrun anymore.

“Writing those feelings down and actually seeing them on paper really is game changing,” – Kayla Logue

What stood out to me as a therapist is that this is not about positivity. Some days you write gratitude. Other days you write anger, grief, or resentment. The power is in honesty, not performance.

When Staying Becomes More Painful Than Leaving

Kayla also spoke candidly about hitting a breaking point in her marriage and career in 2020. She described checking all the boxes society told her to check while feeling increasingly disconnected from herself.

Here is the part many women need to hear. Staying has consequences. Leaving has consequences too. There is no consequence free option. But avoiding the truth always costs more in the long run.

“We all have a choice, and we have to live by the choices that make the most sense for us,” – Kayla Logue

As women, we often stay because it feels safer to tolerate familiar pain than risk the unknown. Journaling forced Kayla to confront what she already knew but had not allowed herself to say out loud.

Radical Responsibility Is Not Carrying More

One of my favorite parts of our conversation was Kayla’s explanation of radical responsibility. This is not about doing more, fixing more, or holding everything together better. It is about clarity.

Radical responsibility means recognizing what is actually within your control and letting go of what is not.

“You can be the cause, the problem, and the solution, and when you realize that, your whole world changes,” – Kayla Logue

That mindset shift is where confidence begins. Not because life gets easier, but because you stop wasting energy trying to control everything and everyone around you.

Setbacks Are Not the End of the Story

Kayla is a firm believer that setbacks are not signs you are failing. They are often the raw material for growth. The only real failure is quitting on yourself entirely.

“The only way you truly fail is if you give up,” – Kayla Logue

Whether you are navigating motherhood, marriage, business, or all three at once, setbacks will come. The question is whether you use them as proof you are not cut out for this or as fuel to build something better.

Start Here This Week

If confidence feels impossible right now, start smaller than you think.

Before you check your phone tomorrow morning, grab a notebook and take ninety seconds to five minutes. Write down:

• One negative thought you are carrying

One thing you are taking responsibility for today

You do not have to lose yourself to succeed. You can build a life that actually fits. And sometimes, it starts with putting pen to paper and telling yourself the truth.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

• Join our FaceBook Page – Empowered and Unapologetic

5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Kayla Logue

Kayla Logue is a bestselling author, keynote speaker, and multi-unit franchise owner of JETSET Pilates. As the founder of Move Into Words, a nonprofit focused on mental and physical wellness, she empowers young professionals to build sustainable habits that fuel personal and professional growth. Kayla blends her background in competitive athletics, high-level sales, and entrepreneurship to help women redefine strength, success, and self-worth on their own terms. Known for her radically honest approach, she teaches others how to navigate business and life without losing themselves in the process. Kayla’s mission is to help women take back control—unapologetically—and design a life that actually fits.

https://www.kaylalogue.com

https://www.facebook.com/kayla.logue

https://www.instagram.com/kaylalogue_

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kayla-logue-38310178

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

Did you enjoy this podcast? Feel free to share this podcast on social media! You can also leave a review of the Empowered and Unapologetic Podcast on Apple Podcast {previously iTunes) and subscribe!

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January has a funny way of sneaking up on your relationship.

The holidays are over. The noise dies down. The house gets quieter. And suddenly you can feel things again. This is the month people reassess their bodies, their careers, their bank accounts. New goals. New plans. New habits.

But almost no one sits down and asks the question that actually matters.

How is my relationship really doing?

Not “are we surviving?”
Not “are we functioning?”
But “are we connected?”

This New Year’s episode was never about fixing your partner or starting a fight in January. It was about pausing long enough to tell the truth. Because you cannot grow what you refuse to acknowledge.

Most couples avoid relationship check-ins for one reason. Fear.

Fear they will realize they feel lonely.
Fear they have been avoiding hard conversations.
Fear that resentment has been quietly taking up space.
Fear that emotional safety has eroded and no one knows how to say it out loud.

So instead, people stay busy. They tell themselves it is just a season. Other couples have it worse. This is not bad enough to deal with.

But minimizing disconnection does not protect your relationship. It slowly erodes it.

That is why this episode introduced the Five Pillar Relationship Check-In. A simple framework. No overthinking. No spiraling. Just honesty.

Rate each area from one to ten.

Intimacy. Not sex. Emotional closeness. Do you feel connected? Do you laugh together? Do you feel desired and do you desire them?

Communication. Can you talk about hard things or do you keep the peace by staying quiet?

Emotional safety. Can you be honest without paying for it later? Can you express hurt without backlash?

Direction. Are you aligned on where you are going or just coexisting on parallel tracks?

Teamwork. Do you feel like partners, especially in parenting and daily life?

Anything under a seven does not require panic. It requires attention.

Relationships do not collapse from one big moment. They erode from years of “we will deal with that later.”

One of the most common things I hear in my office every January is this.

“We do not fight. We are fine.”

When I ask when they last felt deeply connected, the room goes quiet.

They are not fighting. They are coexisting. Parenting, exhaustion, work, and stress slowly replaced intimacy. Conversations became transactional. Touch became functional. Time together became logistical.

That is not a broken marriage. That is a disconnected one.

And disconnection does not always show up as conflict. Sometimes it shows up as silence. Avoidance. A tight chest. Chronic exhaustion. Irritability. Loss of desire. Constant overthinking.

That is your nervous system telling you something does not feel safe.

This is where intentional repair matters. Weekly emotional check-ins. Listening without fixing. Validation without agreement. Pausing when flooded instead of pushing through. Choosing curiosity over being right.

And yes, sometimes DIY stops working.

If every attempt to talk blows up or goes nowhere, that does not mean you failed. It means you are trying to heal a system that is already dysregulated. Therapy provides structure, safety, translation, and regulation. Not because your relationship is broken, but because it is worth protecting.

January is not about reinventing yourself.

It is about intention.

You do not need perfection. You need honesty.

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do for your relationship is pause and ask, are we still choosing each other on purpose?

If this episode stirred something in you, that does not mean something is wrong.

It means something is waking up.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

• Join our FaceBook Page – Empowered and Unapologetic

5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

Did you enjoy this podcast? Feel free to share this podcast on social media! You can also leave a review of the Empowered and Unapologetic Podcast on Apple Podcast {previously iTunes) and subscribe!

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Let me start with the question I hear whispered in therapy, usually through tears and frustration that has been simmering for years.

Why does he choose his family over me. Not once. Not occasionally. Over and over again.

Why does he defend his mom when she hurts me. Why does he minimize my feelings when boundaries are crossed. Why am I expected to tolerate the comments, the criticism, the humiliation, and then be labeled “the bigger person” when I finally crack.

First, let’s clear something up. This is not about hating your in-laws. This is not about jealousy, control, or being dramatic. This is about loyalty, identity, and childhood roles that quietly followed your partner straight into adulthood and unpacked themselves in your marriage like they pay rent.

When your partner consistently chooses his family over you, it does not just feel annoying. It feels rejecting. Abandoning. Unsafe. Because marriage is not just about love. It is about priority. And when you are repeatedly asked to stay quiet, swallow your needs, and tolerate disrespect, your nervous system hears one very clear message. You do not matter as much.

That pain cuts even deeper if you grew up believing love had to be earned. If you learned to be easy, agreeable, low maintenance, or emotionally invisible to keep the peace. This dynamic did not start with your in-laws. It started long before you met your partner.

Here is the part no one explains. Most men who struggle with family boundaries are not weak. They are conditioned.

Say it with me. My husband is not weak. He is conditioned.

Many men grew up learning not to upset mom. Be the good son. Keep the peace. Manage her emotions. Put family first no matter the cost. Some were the emotional support child. The fixer. The protector. The responsible one. That role kept the family stable. That role earned approval and safety.

So his nervous system learned, if I disappoint my family, something bad will happen.

Now fast forward to adulthood. When conflict arises between you and his family, his body does not feel like a grown man choosing sides. It feels like a little boy trying to survive emotional fallout. So he defaults to defending them, minimizing you, and expecting you to adapt.

Not because he loves you less. Because his loyalty programming is louder than his adult awareness.

And here is where it gets painful. Many men unconsciously expect their partner to tolerate the family dynamic because that is what they learned to do themselves. So when you push back, he hears betrayal. Threat. Disruption. And instead of protecting the marriage, he protects the system he knows.

But marriage requires a new hierarchy. You are not marrying into a family system. You are building a new one.

Now let’s talk about you. Because you are not crazy. Many women in this dynamic were also conditioned to be the peacekeeper, the over-functioner, the emotional caretaker. So when he does not choose you, it reopens an old wound that whispers, I am still not enough.

So you try harder. You explain better. You bend more. Until resentment shows up. And resentment is what quietly burns marriages to the ground.

This is not you versus his family. This is your marriage versus unresolved childhood roles.

You are not asking for too much. You are asking for partnership. And that is not unreasonable. It is necessary.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

• Join our FaceBook Page – Empowered and Unapologetic

5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

Did you enjoy this podcast? Feel free to share this podcast on social media! You can also leave a review of the Empowered and Unapologetic Podcast on Apple Podcast {previously iTunes) and subscribe!

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I love a woman who shows up with receipts. Not the “I read it on the internet” kind. The real kind. Nada Lena did exactly that on the podcast, casually dropping research, calling out perfectionism, and reminding all of us that confidence is not something you either “have” or “don’t.” It’s something you build, brick by brick, in the middle of real life.

Because let’s be honest. Most of us can look like we’ve got it together. We can show up for the kids, the patients, the work, the marriage, the school email chain that never ends. And still hear that voice at 2:00 a.m. saying, “But are you really enough?”

Apparently, we’re not alone. Nada shared that 83% of people say their number one challenge is self-confidence. Not time management. Not motivation. Not “finding balance.” Self-confidence. Which explains a lot about why so many high-capability women feel like they are constantly one mistake away from being exposed as a fraud.

“Nobody ever teaches you what I call macro level confidence, also known as self confidence, which is an inner belief that you are enough simply because you exist.”

Micro Confidence vs. Macro Confidence

This part hit me hard. Nada explained that most of us were trained to build what she calls micro-level confidence. You get good at a skill, earn a degree, earn a title, collect the gold stars. You become confident in what you can do.

But macro-level confidence is different. It’s the inner steadiness that says: I am still worthy even when I mess up. Even when I’m learning. Even when something falls apart.

And here’s the kicker: if your identity is built only on the external stuff, then the moment you lose the job, the relationship shifts, the season changes, or the world does what it loves to do, you feel like you lose you.

The Nine Confidence Crushers

Nada’s approach is practical, which I appreciate because “just love yourself” has never paid a bill or calmed a nervous system. She breaks self-confidence down into patterns she calls “confidence crushers” like self-talk, perfectionism, impostor syndrome, boundaries, and “enoughism” which is that brutal one where you achieve things and still feel like it doesn’t count.

Her first step is simple: get clear on which one is running the show for you right now. Not all nine. Not a whole personality overhaul. One starting point.

“Building self-confidence is not a quick fix… it’s commitment to deep inner work.”

Three Small Steps That Actually Matter

Before you go trying to become a whole new person by Monday, Nada offered three grounded moves you can start today.

First, take the free confidence quiz on RiseUpForYou.com so you can name what’s actually happening instead of spiraling in vague self-hate.

Second, audit your circle. Your people are either building you up or bleeding you out.

Third, clarify your values and non-negotiables, because every time you say yes to something that violates your gut, you chip away at your self-respect.

“Every time you say yes to something that you really don’t want to do, you’re stabbing yourself in the back.”

If you want a reframe to start with today, Nada’s is refreshingly straightforward: “You got this.” Say it out loud. Yes, out loud. Especially when you’re scared. Especially when you’re wobbling. Confidence doesn’t require a different personality. It requires practice, and you can start building yours today.

Click here to talk to a therapist. Click here to take my on-demand 4-week course to reignite your marriage and reclaim your identity. Or, click here to explore my on-demand 2-hour workshop to reconnect with your partner.

Useful links:

• Join our FaceBook Page – Empowered and Unapologetic

5 Things that are Killing your Marriage Free Guide available at www.veronicacisneros.org

Meet Nada Nasserdeen

Nada Lena Nasserdeen is an internationally acclaimed thought leader, visionary, and advocate for personal and professional empowerment. As the Founder and CEO of Rise Up For You, she is a two-time #1 best-selling author and a two-time TEDx motivational speaker.

Her work has garnered media attention across prominent platforms, including Apple TV, Bloomberg, Canada’s Global TV, Radio Canada, and Amazon Prime TV. Nada can also be seen as one of the few female co-hosts of The Office Hours, a groundbreaking talk show that features interviews with celebrities, athletes, and world-renowned entrepreneurs.

In 2023, her extraordinary contributions to leadership and personal development were celebrated with a Times Square billboard in New York, a testament to her unparalleled impact.

Website: https://www.nadalena.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/riseupforyou/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nadalena/

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, helps women stop fighting the same fight on repeat and start truly connecting in their relationships.

A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 12 years of experience, Veronica specializes in helping high-achieving women break out of destructive conflict cycles and build healthier, more connected relationships—without losing themselves in the process.

As the founder of Outside the Norm Counseling, marriage coach, and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica brings a no-nonsense approach to relationship healing. Her clients know—she doesn’t do bandaids. She gets to the root.

Veronica’s guidance blends practical communication tools with deep emotional insight, empowering women to challenge old patterns, repair emotional wounds, and foster real, lasting change in their marriages and families. She’s walked the walk too—with over 25 years of marriage, three daughters, and a thriving career, she knows what it takes to navigate the messiness of love, parenting, and personal growth.

Whether she’s working with couples in her practice or coaching women through relationship burnout, Veronica helps people shift from blame and burnout to clarity, compassion, and collaboration. Her honest, relatable style—and that sharp wit—make her a trusted voice for women ready to stop surviving their relationships and start thriving in them.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or do the Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

Thanks for listening!

Did you enjoy this podcast? Feel free to share this podcast on social media! You can also leave a review of the Empowered and Unapologetic Podcast on Apple Podcast {previously iTunes) and subscribe!

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