February 02, 2023

001: Through the Fire

32 minutes

Life. the podcast

with host Ashley Calhoun aka Ash Your Coach

Episode 001

Guest: Tavin Washington, Agent at Driven Estates brokered at eXp Realty LLC

SUMMARY:

Host Ashley Calhoun is bringing us into a fascinating, intimate and powerful conversation on this inaugural episode of her new show: Life. the podcast, Tavin Washington reveals himself to be not only an amazing father, businessman and mentor but also the embodiment of what it means to take charge and go for what you want in life. He shares his experience as a young man being raised by a single mom doing her best to keep the family afloat financially and takes us on his journey from successful long-haul trucker to real estate entrepreneur. You’ll also learn how Tavin nurtures the most important relationships in his life (in part by making his own self-care a priority), what it means to be present as a husband and father, where he seeks counsel and what he would tell his past self if he could. We are also invited to share the very personal story of how Tavin learned to heal from addiction and depression by loving himself into peace. If you can see it, then you can be it, says this charismatic father of three. Clearly he’s a guy who knows how to find the positive, create the vision and then relentlessly go after his dream – as he’s already doing with great success as an agent at eXp Realty.

Reach out to Tavin! He’s a people person. No matter who you are, what you look like or where you’re going, he’s ready to have a conversation (about real estate or anything else). You can find him @Driven_Estates on a variety of social media platforms linked below.

And if you’d like to jumpstart your business or figure out your real estate roadmap, check out Ashley’s coaching website here or schedule a discovery call with her at this Calendly link.

KEY TOPICS:

Brave. Selfless. Just a few of the adjectives that describe Tavin Washington!

Ashley highlights the five pivotal relationships that shape how we live our lives, including:

With Ourselves.

With Others.

Health.

Money.

Work.

Why Tavin has chosen to focus this conversation on his relationship with himself and his health: Raising three kids and staying focused on all the balls he has in the air requires Tavin to be aligned with himself – mentally, physically and spiritually.

Words of Advice: Letting yourself go is letting your family go. Take care of yourself and you’ll be around to care for and support those you love!

Check the Judgment! How Tavin defines himself within his marriage by:

Claiming his manhood.

Embracing gender roles.

Raised by a single mom and sister under economic stress, Tavin recognized as he grew older the importance of having male mentorship and role models.

Breakthrough: Through trial and error, Tavin found his way into true manhood by making mistakes and embracing that, even though he was a parent, he was still learning to grow up and come fully into his own.

Family First: The story of Tavin’s (risky! abrupt!) decision to sell his profitable long-haul trucking business and move into real estate (so he could be there for his family).

What Helps Keep Tavin Stay Grounded:

His wife and kids.

Relatives and in-laws.

Mentors.

Stubbornness and pride are real for Tavin, who attributes it to growing up without a father and deals with it by listening to the wisdom of trusted advisors.

Why is Tavin the Realtor for You?

He’s relentless!

His word is his bond.

He’s analytical and knows how to size up a risk worth taking.

If you could have coffee with anybody, who would it be? Tavin would get together with his past self and help him prepare for and navigate the future ahead.

Open Book: How multiple surgeries tipped Tavin into addiction to pain medication – a tough, scary passage that included self-harm and depression. It also turned out to be an opportunity to “love myself into peace.”

His People Were His System! Through his struggles and inability to get help from the medical system, his mom and then-high school sweetheart (now wife) walked with Tavin through his descent into darkness – and eventual recovery.

Becoming Your Own Magic: You have everything within, says Tavin, who invites all of us to fearless and relentlessly follow a positive path to whatever we see for ourselves!

QUOTABLE:

“If you don’t take care of yourself, it’s going to be very hard, depressing and a big struggle to take care of a family.” (Tavin)

“Letting yourself go is letting your family go because you’re not going to be around to take care of them.” (Tavin)

“It’s important to have individuality within your marriage so that your marriage can run properly. If you don’t have self-care, you can’t come together to care for each other.” (Tavin)

“I think in your relationship it’s okay to allow a woman to be a woman and do what women are best at. And it’s okay to allow your husband to be a man and do what he does best as a man.” (Tavin)

“It took me a long time to learn that being an independent woman ain’t it. It is exhausting. It is draining.” (Ashley)

“Even though I had kids, I was still learning and figuring things out … Turning 30, this is the very first year of my adulthood and official manhood.” (Tavin)

“I never had any true background in business but I always had the drive. And the drive is what got me to a lot of places and opened a lot of doors. Drive and spirituality.” (Tavin)

“You can give kids all the money in the world, but time with you can never be replaced.” (Tavin)

“A lot of people like to talk about their pain and injuries just to get sympathy from others or have a sob story. I’m 100% the opposite of that. I don’t want your sympathy … because all of the stuff I went through, I got through it.” (Tavin)

“For the people going through (suicidal thoughts) right now, there is a way that you can find to love yourself through the pain that you’re trying to inflict on yourself.” (Tavin)

“Magic can be something you can see or it can be an illusion. But no matter what you are seeing, it’s happening because somebody had the will power to make it happen. So if you want to spark your magic, just starting thinking positive.” (Tavin)

“You can change your life overnight just by waking up thinking to be a different person. Yesterday is who I was yesterday. Today I’m going to make new memories to spring forth in life. I’m going to make new experiences and a new path today.” (Tavin)

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ABOUT ASHLEY:

A Certified Professional Coach, Ashley is certified by iPEC and has also received an Associate Certified Coaching credential from the International Coach Federation. She is a Certified Core Energy Coach who specializes in helping people access their inner resources so they can move forward with their lives, careers and businesses. Based in Suwanee, GA, Ashley is also a real estate professional whose credentials include: Accredited Buyer's Representative (ABR®), Short Sales & Foreclosure Certification (SFR®), Real Estate Negotiation Expert (RENE®), Commitment to Excellence Endorsed (C2EX), iBuyer Certification, Knock Home Swap Certified Agent—all of which will offer you peace of mind when working on your next sale or purchase.

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