X’s & O’s Not Exes & Woes

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In this episode, Cheryl will discuss:  

  • Root cause #3 of relationship failure: fighting, and to replace it with curiosity and compassion. 
  • Understanding the core reason behind triggers that lead to defensiveness. 
  • How to manage defensive reactions instead of reacting to them. 

Key Takeaways:  

  • Each partner trying to pull the other into their mindset in an argument leads to confusion. 
  • The solution for avoiding confusion when your partner seems unreasonable in an argument, is to observe which defenses are being triggered. 
  • Everyone has five defenses with one being the most dominant. 

The end result of your effort is communication that is fulfilling and gets to your desired result.  Instead of fighting, the payoff is less drama and fewer hurt feelings.” —  Cheryl Herbst  

Connect with Cheryl Herbst:   

Twitter:   Cheryl_Herbst  
Facebook:   Cheryl Herbst  
Website:   www.afraidtoloveagain.com  
Email:  [email protected]  
Book: How to Keep Your X’s & O’s from Becoming Exes & Woes        
Show: www.afraidtoloveagain.com   
LinkedIn: Cheryl Herbst  

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X’s & O’s Not Exes & WoesBy Cheryl Herbst

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