Shrinking to love yourself never works.  Statements and thoughts that are self-defeating are literal to our brain and if we are not careful, will leave us sad, angry, and disgusted. True self-content comes from loving yourself unconditionally. For more information on how to recover from self-defeating thought patterns check out this episode and my ongoing Instagram account. www.instagram.com/judyarazoza. Also, consider reading this book,  "Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended on It" available on Amazon and where ever you buy books.  by Kamil Ravikant