Going from a revenge mindset to a growth mindset is hard but it's one of the best things you can do for yourself in your journey back from rock bottom. 

Right after my divorce almost everything I did was fueled by anger and rage and it ate me alive. I realized quickly that I am not this person who wants to be successful for the sake of revenge or proving others wrong.

Realistically, do they really care? Probably not. But in the process you will make decisions for all of the wrong reasons.

If you can switch your mindset from anger/revenger to truly tapping in to finding yourself and your purpose once you start making decisions the growth and results from that will be so much sweeter because you are doing it for yourself and not anyone else.