(aka the one where the red flags were just palo santo-scented and you stop confusing “spiritual” with “emotionally unstable in linen pants” 😵‍💫)

What if the conscious, grounded, wildly devoted man you’re longing for… doesn’t drink cacao, doesn’t quote Rumi, and has never once said the word “Shakti”?

In this episode, I’m telling the truth about the sneaky spiritual performance traps we fall for—the ones that keep us dismissing real devotion because it doesn’t match our curated vision boards or the “conscious relationship” reels we’ve saved on Instagram.

I share the real moment when I thought Jake—my lacrosse-playing, ex-frat, reinsurance-working husband—couldn’t meet me anymore. And how everything changed when I stopped needing him to look spiritual…and started seeing the ways he embodied something deeper than any man-bun-in-Bali ever could.

We talk about:

• The difference between performing spirituality vs. practicing devotion
• Why some men can quote David Deida but can’t hold your truth
• Myths that keep you from recognizing the real thing when it doesn’t come in your prefered packaging
• The 5 quiet but potent traits of true spiritual masculinity
• What to do if you feel like your partner isn’t “doing the work”
• How to stop confusing sacred aesthetics with actual capacity

If you’ve ever felt the fear of outgrowing your partner... or wondered where all the “conscious men” are... this one’s for you.

This isn’t about lowering your standards. It’s about elevating your discernment.

Because devotion doesn’t always look sexy on Instagram.

But it feels safe, hot, and holy in your nervous system.

Pssst!! If your sex life feels stale, distant, or performative…

• 🚫 You’re not broken.
• 🚫 Your partner isn’t hopeless.
• 😉 And your relationship isn’t over.

You’re just out of alignment with your truest erotic signature.

There are 12 Eros-Scope™ Signs...each with a totallllly different turn-on style. 😱

When you’re not clear on and connected to yours, nothing works.

BUT! There’s a version of you who knows exactly what she wants—and how to ask for it.

Take the Eros-Scope™ Quiz to find her 🥵

(+ give your partner a map to meet you there ❤️‍🔥)