Leaving Neverland 2 of 12. Stop our illusions, naivety, and fantasy thinking and feeling.  We believe we can change others (fantasy and naivety).  We can't.  We believe we can make our parents be who we want them to be, or we will fantasize about it.  Oh if only they will _____, then I’ll be happy and complete.  That is illusory/naivety.  We need to root out the illusions and naivety... we will become much stronger and effective people if we can do that.