How do you vet people who belong in your network? This isn’t a question about who they are on a fundamental level - it’s about quality of communication, integrity, and the difference between healthy connection and drama within your inner circle.

This episode took almost a year to craft, and the degree of nuance that we explore should explain why. It goes deep into one of the most valuable zones of expertise that a network-oriented person can develop: optics. Specifically, we focus on the intricacies of relationship vetting.

From the importance of setting a vision for your ideal network, to the types of signals to hone in on in the process of getting to know someone new, to the healthy boundaries that you’ll need to put in place when people demonstrate unsafe behavior. This episode is packed full of real life examples and case studies that will provide you with a clear and versatile map to high level relationship building, no matter what types of business or social circles you run in.

Key Takeaways

• Why greater abundance creates more options to meet new people and higher quality people - and why these are almost always people with a high level of integrity or emotional maturity.
• How to navigate the social pressure that comes with building an effective network.
• How to effectively assess someone’s communicational or integrity maturity - and why this almost always requires a lot of self-reflection.
• What it means when someone is trying to convince you that their past behavior is anomalous.
• How high requirements for transparency and connection can make people feel like nothing is ever good enough.
• What to do when people in your network, or people you are vetting to be part of your network, display unsafe behavior.

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