We all have an inner voice, a running commentary, or inner dialog. This self-talk, as it is called, is often programmed in our childhood. As you listen to the inner voice, ask yourself, “Whose voice is this?” It may be your Dad’s voice, your mom’s voice, a teacher's voice, or another adult’s voice. Notice the tone of the voice. Then ask yourself, when you mess up, “Is this voice kind or cruel?” If it is cuel, you need to let it go. Learn to become your own best friend. When you mess up, learn the lesson, accepts yourself, forgive yourself, and have compassion on yourself.