You don’t need to “change” or “work on” your spouse, you need to change the store. You tell yourself about your spouse and work on yourself.
Your circumstances don’t determine your feelings, it’s always the story that you tell yourself about the circumstance that determines your feelings.
Do you see this all the time in the book of Mormon. Where two people are going through the same experience, but telling them selves a completely different story about it. The result of the story is a drastically different action and outcome.
Every day you tell yourself stories about your spouse. “They are______. They never _____.”
These stories become self fulfilling, prophecy’s.
However, you think about someone (good or bad), they will prove you right.
This is Celestial Thinking.
Realizing the power that your words have to create your reality, and then proactively changing those thoughts and words to line up with the future that you want to create.