Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe, resiliency expert, joins Now What to discuss Resiliency. Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe, teaches us what resiliency is, how we can build it ourselves, and encourage it in our children.

Topics Discussed:

(0:00) Introductions

(3:09) Defining Resilience: Resiliency is not just reserved for the big adversities in life. Dr. Hanley- Dafoe walks us through the 5 Traits of Resiliency: Belonging, Perspective, Acceptance, Hope, Humour.

(10:36) Fostering resilience: Dr. Hanley- Dafoe talks about the factors that contribute to fostering resilience, including Self-care

(16:55) Productivity and Rest: We talk about softening the edges between being productive and winding down.

(19:30) Self-Entitled or Self-Sabotaging: We explore the idea that when we live in depletion we can begin to feel that we are entitled to certain rewards, so much so, that they can become self-sabotaging. Dr. Hanley-Dafoe teaches us why this happens, and how we can engage in rewarding ourselves without becoming over-indulgent.

(27:49) Finding different ways to meet our needs: Dr. Hanley-Dafoe describes the types of self-care that actually help, and how you can identify the types of self-care that will be the best for you.

(32:12) What is Burnout? Dr. Hanley-Dafoe describes what actually causes burnout, and how we can help fight it by spending time within our own values. We talk about reflecting on our own values, instead of just doing the things that we think we “should”. In particular, we talk about the pressure to do all of the things that we believe “good moms” do. Dr. Robyne describes operating from a scarcity mindset vs. operating from a sufficiency mindset.

(43:22) “Kids are Resilient”: We ask Dr. Hanley-Dafoe what her thoughts are on this phrase. We talk about responding to children's needs through difficult times, and the importance of having one reliable caregiver.

(53:35) Building resilience: Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe answers our questions about how you can begin to build resiliency.

Resources:

Robyne’s book, "Calm within the Storm" https://amzn.to/3wGwL97

About Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe:

Described as one of the most sought-after, engaging, thought-provoking, and truly transformative international speakers and scholars in her field, Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe is a multi-award-winning education and psychology instructor, author, resiliency expert, and philanthropist. What sets Dr. Robyne apart is how she learned resiliency from the ground up, as a person who has experienced significant obstacles yet forged her come back. Dr. Robyne has over 16 years of university teaching and research experience and brings a refreshing and researched informed perspective to our understanding and practices of resiliency and wellness. Dr. Robyne’s work is accessible and relatable while offering practical strategies that are realistic and sustainable. Follow Robyne on Instagram @dr_robynehd

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