If you could only see yourself the way other people see you, you could change the outcome of your life. The problem with our mind is that it's a perfect record of everything we've thought good and bad. Your brain is a 3 million year old device made to protect you, so imagine yourself as God envisions you. You have the choice to believe or see yourself as the people that love you the most, and as soon as you see yourself in that way, you can act. When you get results from those actions, you start to have a self reinforcing belief that you are that person.