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019 The Whole TING - Are You Actually Listening?

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Episode 019 - The Whole TING - Are You Actually Listening?

Explore the profound significance of truly listening through the lens of the Chinese word "TING."

TING encapsulates a deep, multi-faceted approach to listening. Each component of TING is broken down to show how it can transform personal and professional relationships.

Introduction to TING:

The Chinese word TING, meaning "to listen," is introduced. Its intricate components, each represented by different pictographs, are explained to offer a rich framework for enhancing listening skills.

Components of TING:
  • Hear: The top-left pictograph represents hearing, emphasizing the importance of not just hearing words but also tone, pace, and changes in voice.
  • Think: Below "hear," this pictograph encourages thinking about the speaker's message and context, rather than preparing a response.
  • Be Present: This element stresses the necessity of being fully present in the moment, experiencing the conversation as it unfolds.
  • See: The pictograph resembling eyeglasses highlights the significance of observing non-verbal cues like body language and micro-expressions.
  • Focus: This part reminds to stay focused, avoiding distractions and truly engaging with the speaker.
  • Feel: The heart-shaped pictograph represents empathy, urging the importance of feeling what the other person is feeling and being aware of one’s own emotions.
    • Practical Application:

    Practical tips are shared on how to apply the principles of TING in everyday conversations, making one a better listener, communicator, and leader.

    Influence Book Club:

    An introduction to the Influence Book Club, a resource for learning and applying the best lessons from books on influence, communication, and relationships. Visit [InfluenceBookClub.com](https://influencebookclub.com) for more details.

    Resources:

    Additional resources and interactive worksheets on TING are available at DrTori.com/ting to help deepen understanding and practice of effective listening. 

    Additional Links:
    • Influence Book Club: InfluenceBookClub.com
    • Dr. Tori's TING Resources: DrTori.com/ting - multiple resources here for you - worksheets, a 7-day bucket list TING challenge, a video walk-through, and more.

      • Tune in to become a better listener and leader, and learn how to truly influence for good, every day.

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