Wake Up Call

023: How to Resist the Urge to Fix Everything


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Many of us have an urge to help, which often shows up in the need to step in and save the day by fixing everything. While this comes from a place of kindness and good intentions, it can actually be harmful to both the person you are trying to help and to yourself. In this episode, I’m sharing how you can show up and be supportive without doing the fixing yourself.

Here are three things to keep in mind when you feel the urge to step in and fix something:

  • Fixing can interrupt the cycle of someone’s opportunity to learn something. It can be hard to watch, but it’s so important to let the people you care about learn the lessons they’re meant to learn.
  • Your desire to fix might be more about your own discomfort with a situation than it is about the other person’s discomfort with their situation. When you feel the urge to fix things, reflect on whether you’re making the situation about yourself and your own feelings.
  • When someone comes to you with a problem, ask yourself: is this person asking for my help, or do they just need someone to vent to? Just listening to them is a way to show your support and make them feel heard, and fixing things for them can cause unintended harm.
  • Welcome to the Wake Up Call Podcast with Alicia Hopkins (that’s me!). I work in corporate sales by day and am a personal development guru and Life Coach by night. My goal in this podcast is to share valuable and actionable tips on what I call the “Core Four” - mindfulness, movement, habits, and growth - so you can build a life that feels true to you. I will be interviewing people who have had a “wake up call” that their good-on-paper life wasn’t lighting them up, and what they did to change that. Join us every week for a new episode of the Wake Up Call Podcast with Alicia Hopkins!

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