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024 Are You Corrupting Your Intentions?

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Episode 024: Are You Corrupting Your Intentions?

Welcome back to the Influence Every Day show with Dr. Ed Tori, where we make every day better by influencing for good.

Episode Summary:

Are your intentions as pure as you think, or are you unknowingly corrupting them? In this thought-provoking episode, Dr. Tori challenges the common perception of intentions and dives deep into how they can shape your character, influence, and relationships. Intentions are not just about what happens before you act; they linger long after the actions are taken. Dr. Tori emphasizes the importance of setting noble intentions and maintaining their purity over time and across different contexts. He explores how boasting, bitterness, or inconsistent behavior can taint even the most well-meaning intentions, ultimately affecting your influence on others.

Key Takeaways:
  • Pre-event Check: Before pursuing a goal or taking action, ask yourself: “Are my intentions pure? Are they noble?”
  • Post-event Reflection: Intentions don’t end when the goal is achieved. Beware of corrupting them by bragging or shifting your motivations.
     
  • Consistency Over Time: Keep your intentions consistent, even when circumstances change or when facing adversity.
     
  • Congruence Across Contexts: Manage your intentions across different situations—whether it’s a change in job, relationships, or personal setbacks.
     
  • Influence and Integrity: Noble, consistent, and congruent intentions create a magnetic influence that others can sense and respect, often without a word being said.
    • Action Steps:
    1. Be Deliberate About Your Intentions: Before and after pursuing a goal, take a moment to examine the purity of your intentions.
    2. Maintain Consistency: Strive to keep your intentions aligned over time, regardless of changes in context.
    3. Avoid Bragging: Celebrate your achievements without diminishing the purity of your original motives.
    4. Stay Positive: Even when things don’t go as planned, uphold the intentions you started with, and avoid letting negativity corrupt them.
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      Closing Thoughts:

      Are you corrupting your intentions? It’s time to be deliberate. Reflect, refine, and align your intentions with your actions. Keep them pure and consistent, and watch how it transforms your influence and relationships. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, and help us spread the message of influencing for good.

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      00:00 Introduction: Are You Corrupting Your Intentions?

      00:25 Setting Intentions: Before the Action

      01:30 Purifying Your Intentions: The Why Behind Your Actions

      02:09 The Impact of Noble Intentions on Character

      02:38 Corrupting Intentions: The Dangers of Pride and Bragging

      05:29 Consistency in Intentions: Across Time and Contexts

      07:42 The Power of Deliberate Intentions on Influence

      08:34 Conclusion: Be Deliberate with Your Intentions

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