Boundaries are so important. And can be so hard! Because boundaries are so vital, we have split this topic into a 2-part series. Part 1 will focus on how parents can set boundaries with their teen. Part 2 will focus on how teens can set boundaries in their own life.  

The basics of setting up boundaries

• How boundaries benefit teens (even if they won't admit it!)
• Do preparation work before talking with your teen
• Tips for how to set up boundaries

How to deal with boundary testing

• Be firm and consistent
• Give respect to get respect

Keys to enforcing consequences

• Remember that pushing boundaries is normal teen behavior (and healthy developmentally!) 
• If they break the agreed-upon deal:
  • Reiterate the deal broken
  • Allow natural consequences
  • If natural consequences don't apply, cooperatively decide on a fitting consequence
  • Follow through (so hard!)
• Provide positive reinforcement when they do comply
• Spend time talking about a ton of other things besides boundaries

 

Resources:

• Set realistic boundaries with your teenager https://parents.au.reachout.com/skills-to-build/connecting-and-communicating/things-to-try-building-trust/set-realistic-boundaries-with-your-teenager
• Stephanie Klindt, Marriage and Family Therapist Intern: 10 Way to Set  Appropriate Boundaries with Teens http://teentherapycentersv.org/2014/12/30/10-ways-to-set-appropriate-boundaries-with-teens/