*TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains descriptions of extreme violence, and may be triggering to some people. If you feel an intense physical or emotional reaction while listening, please press pause. Reach out to someone you trust, or a trained counsellor, to process your feelings and thoughts. If you need crisis support, please do not lose hope. Reach out to your local crisis support hotline.  If you are experiencing physical, emotional, or mental abuse, please reach out to https://www.pave.org.sg/contact-us.php for support.

"So this is how I’m going to die - at the hands of my boyfriend.”

In this special episode with host Stephen Lew and co-host Jade Seah, we speak with Rachel Lim, survivor of extreme dating violence in Singapore. 

The bones in Rachel's face and hands were broken when her boyfriend at the time, a medical doctor, locked her in his room and punched her repeatedly, strangling her till she thought she was going to die.  

Rachel shares vital insights for those who might face a similar situation, or those who know someone who might.  

“I think what could have helped me was to know my situation is not unique.”  

“In the past, when I read stories of people getting abused, I always didn’t understand why they would stay in a relationship with someone who hits them. I couldn’t envision myself being with a guy who beats the hell out of me. And then it happened to me. … and it could really happen to anyone.”  

We asked:

 - Why did she stay in the relationship? 

- Thoughts after the abuse 

- Did talking to friends help? 

- How did you heal emotionally?

 - What NOT to say to a friend/loved one in an abusive relationship

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