This week, Nins dives into "Higher" by Tems, the haunting Afrobeats ballad about toxic relationships, self-worth, healing, and finally choosing yourself. From the song's powerful lyrics to the surprising story behind Future's Grammy-winning sample in "Wait for U," this conversation explores what it means to stop waiting for people who refuse to change.

Then, Arns shares an unexpected story from a family trip through Europe. After a frustrating 6-hour flight delay in Italy, she discovers something beautiful while watching strangers navigate the inconvenience together—and reflects on finding peace, gratitude, and connection in life's unexpected pauses.

This episode is about healing, perspective, emotional growth, and the courage to choose peace over resentment.

In this episode:

• Tems' "Higher" lyric analysis
• The meaning behind "I won't wait for you"
• Toxic relationships and emotional healing
• Future's "Wait for U" sample controversy
• Traveling Europe with a toddler
• A 6-hour flight delay that became a life lesson
• Choosing gratitude during difficult moments
• Finding beauty in everyday life

Topics: Tems, Higher, Afrobeats, emotional healing, self-growth, relationships, travel stories, Europe travel, mindfulness, gratitude, personal development, mental wellness, emotional resilience

0:00 - Intro
2:58 - Recap: Nins watched Queen Charlotte
5:30 - Storytime: our first Vegas trip
7:19 - Nins: "Higher" by Tems
36:37 - Arns: flight delay
58:28 - Outro

Referenced in this episode:

• Tems "Higher" live performance | Open Mic
• TEMS' (@temsbaby) post on X: "Maybe now it’s time for me to confess..." 
• "Tems Joins Brown Bag Mornings & Clears up the Lyric From her Song Higher": interview with Power 106 Radio in Los Angeles

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