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04 | Why Healing Feels Like Betrayal (And Why It's Not)
Have you ever felt like healing made you the problem?
Like setting a boundary, asking a question, or even just taking a breath for yourself meant you were somehow being disloyal—to your church, your family, or even to God?
If so, this episode was made for you.
In today’s conversation, Debra shares a personal story of what it felt like to begin healing in an environment that didn’t make space for her needs, her grief, or her voice—and how she overcame the fear that her healing would cost her everything. Through heartfelt storytelling and gentle teaching, you’ll discover why this tug-of-war between guilt and growth is so common for women of faith… and why it’s not a sign that you’re falling away—but a sign that you’re waking up.
You’re not betraying your roots.
You’re returning to the truth of who God created you to be.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
→ Why obedience was often equated with silence—and how to reclaim your voice
→ How “faithfulness” was distorted into self-abandonment
→ Why healing doesn’t mean dishonoring the people you love
→ What Jesus actually modeled about restoration, boundaries, and love
→ How to begin trusting your own inner compass—without fear
Journal Prompt:
What part of me is afraid that healing will cost me love or approval?
🎧 Mentioned in this episode:
→ Take the free quiz at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com to discover where you are in your healing journey and what’s been holding you back
→ Grab your copy of He Is Enough at HeIsEnoughBook.com — and get instant access to the audiobook, healing mini-course, weekly reading circles, and our support community for just $17
Listener Love:
If this episode spoke to your heart, would you share it with someone else who needs it?
And if you’re willing, a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women find this space and feel a little less alone. 💛
This isn’t surface-level faith advice.
It’s soul-level restoration — designed for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, true connection, and a safe, loving relationship with God.
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By Debra Shafer | Spiritual Healing Coach for Christian Women | Founder, Healing Religious Trauma Circle | Walking Women Home to a Safe, Loving God | Voice of Gentle Clarity, Healing, and TruthHave you ever felt like healing made you the problem?
Like setting a boundary, asking a question, or even just taking a breath for yourself meant you were somehow being disloyal—to your church, your family, or even to God?
If so, this episode was made for you.
In today’s conversation, Debra shares a personal story of what it felt like to begin healing in an environment that didn’t make space for her needs, her grief, or her voice—and how she overcame the fear that her healing would cost her everything. Through heartfelt storytelling and gentle teaching, you’ll discover why this tug-of-war between guilt and growth is so common for women of faith… and why it’s not a sign that you’re falling away—but a sign that you’re waking up.
You’re not betraying your roots.
You’re returning to the truth of who God created you to be.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
→ Why obedience was often equated with silence—and how to reclaim your voice
→ How “faithfulness” was distorted into self-abandonment
→ Why healing doesn’t mean dishonoring the people you love
→ What Jesus actually modeled about restoration, boundaries, and love
→ How to begin trusting your own inner compass—without fear
Journal Prompt:
What part of me is afraid that healing will cost me love or approval?
🎧 Mentioned in this episode:
→ Take the free quiz at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com to discover where you are in your healing journey and what’s been holding you back
→ Grab your copy of He Is Enough at HeIsEnoughBook.com — and get instant access to the audiobook, healing mini-course, weekly reading circles, and our support community for just $17
Listener Love:
If this episode spoke to your heart, would you share it with someone else who needs it?
And if you’re willing, a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women find this space and feel a little less alone. 💛
This isn’t surface-level faith advice.
It’s soul-level restoration — designed for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, true connection, and a safe, loving relationship with God.