In this episode, we explore:

• The survival mindset vs. the growth mindset

  • Why avoiding failure is not the same as creating success

  • How “safety” can be a disguised form of self-sabotage

• Real-life examples of playing not to lose

  • Staying in a “good enough” relationship out of fear of being alone

  • Avoiding conflict in friendships to keep the peace

  • Refusing to raise prices in your business to avoid losing clients

• The biology behind fear and risk

  • Your nervous system is wired to detect danger, not opportunity

  • Familiar discomfort often feels safer than unfamiliar possibility

  • Loss aversion is stronger than the desire for gain

• How cultural and social conditioning reinforce playing it safe

  • We reward caution until someone succeeds, then call them a visionary

  • Most people can't support you while you're taking the risk—they don’t understand it

• What it really means to “play to win”

  • Get clear on what you do want, not just what you fear

  • Define a specific, emotionally charged vision of success

  • Take action before you feel ready—don't wait for permission from your feelings

• The danger of vague fear

  • You can’t work through what you don’t name

  • Replace vague labels like “anxiety” with the real fear (e.g. rejection, failure, judgment)

  • Clarity kills fear; vagueness feeds it

• Reframing risk as data

  • A failed launch or webinar isn’t a failure—it’s information

  • Your job is to test, tweak, and try again

• Adopting an “all or something” mindset

  • Perfectionism kills progress

  • Doing 1% is better than doing nothing at all

• Your stretch action challenge

  • Pick one action outside your comfort zone that aligns with your vision

  • Make it uncomfortable, not reckless

  • Examples: Go live, ask for referrals, set a boundary