Unmute Your Mic ™

#043: You’re Arguing About Pain, Not Problems


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You’re not fighting about the dishes.

You’re fighting about abandonment.

About rejection.

About control.

Old wounds don’t disappear when you get into a relationship.

They show up in tone.

In defensiveness.

In shutting down.

In overreacting.


If you’ve ever said:

  • “You never listen.”
  • “You’re too sensitive.”
  • “Why are you always defensive?”
  • “I feel alone.”

This episode is for you.


In This Episode:

✔️ How abandonment wounds show up in arguments

✔️ Why rejection makes feedback feel like criticism

✔️ How control is often fear in disguise

✔️ 3 questions to ask yourself mid-conflict


When you recognize the wound, you stop attacking the person.

For the Woman Who Is Strong… But Tired

Sis.

You hold it together.

You carry the emotional weight.

You rarely fall apart — because everyone depends on you.

But strength without support becomes exhaustion.

If you’re tired of being “the strong one,”

I created something for you.


✨ The Strong But Tired Masterclass

This is for the high-achieving woman who is carrying too much and healing in silence.


Inside we unpack:

  • Why you overfunction in relationships
  • How survival patterns follow you into adulthood
  • How to stop performing strength and start experiencing peace


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This isn’t a webinar.

It’s a healing room.


If this episode resonated:

  • Comment what wound you recognized
  • Share this with someone you love
  • Subscribe for more conversations that go deeper


Let’s stop arguing about the surface.

Let’s heal what’s underneath.

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Unmute Your Mic ™By Lauren Jackson