What do you think about the notion that who you partner with is the most important decision you will ever make? Do you agree or disagree?Do you take your love life as seriously as work or school? Why or why not? Is this something you’d like to change? If so, how?What sort of family do you imagine having one day? Is this different or similar to the one in which you grew up?Does the notion of “picking your family” set up unrealistic expectations for your partner’s family and the role they need to play?Is there a way that you sometimes date down or have dated down in the past? How do you think this has affected you? Why do you think this happened and how might you change this or have changed this already? You know what they say: “Practice makes perfect” So be careful what you’re practicingWhat is your “perceived mate value” or how likable or loveable or desirable do you think you are and why? Does the notion of a perceived mate value even make sense or is it too rooted in comparisons to cultural ideals?When it comes to living with someone, the author warns against what cohabitation researcher Scott Stanley calles sliding, not deciding. To make cohabitation a more conscious process, what are some questions you might like to ask a partner before and after you move in together?Lock-in can occur in relationships or at work. How do you know when you’re experiencing lock-in in a relationship or in a job that has run its course? And how do you get yourself out?Have you ever been in love or in lust but not in “like”? How could you tell and how did this play out over time?The author mentions traveling as one way to find out how compatible you and your partner are. Name five other activities or experiences you could tryThe author shared 29 conversations she suggests readers should be asking their partners and themselves about their relationships. How many topics can you and your partner disagree on before it's too many?When is the right time to have these sorts of conversations? Is it ever too early or too late to have such talks? Is it ever too soon to be thinking of these scenarios yourself?---
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