Some loneliness doesn’t come from being alone — it comes from never quite having a place to belong.

In this episode of Unpack My Brain, I unpack what it’s been like to grow up without a core group of friends. I talk about early childhood experiences, strict family dynamics, and how not learning to build close friendships early on can quietly shape the way you connect with people as an adult.

This is a reflection on having friends [in childhood], but not having default people. On adapting, internalizing, questioning yourself — and slowly learning what friendship looks like when you’re building it later in life.

There are no answers here. Just honesty, observation, and space to name something that often goes unspoken.

In this episode, I unpack:

• Growing up without a core or “default” friend group in my childhood
• How strict upbringing and limited social freedom shaped connection
• The difference between having friends and having core friends
• The quiet loneliness of not sharing long-term history with anyone
• Watching other people have tight-knit friendships — and learning to sit with that
• How this experience affects reaching out, asking for help, and trust

What kind of connection are you craving right now — and what’s one small way you can start nurturing it?

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About Unpack My Brain

Unpack My Brain is a personal journal–style podcast where we slow down and unpack thoughts about life, identity, relationships, and the in-between moments that quietly shape who we become. No advice. No conclusions. Just honest reflection, one thought at a time.

If this episode resonated with you, follow Unpack My Brain and come back next time as we continue unpacking the things we don’t always know how to say out loud.

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