'I had to ask myself: who are the people who are happy to keep using phrases like "man-up", "men don't cry", "you're crying like a girl". These phrases make me feel uncomfortable.'

James talks to Nisha, an occupational therapist, about her experiences of gender and race.

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For more on Mantor: The Masculinity Conversations see here.

Supported by Arts Council England's Emergency Fund.