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The 100 Marble Method – Using What’s Left to Move Forward

• The Marble Metaphor

  • Imagine you have 100 marbles representing your energy and focus.

  • Strong emotions like anxiety, grief, or stress can take up 70, 80, or even 99 of them.

  • The key is not trying to reduce the marbles taken by the feeling, but asking: what can I do with the marbles I still have left?

• Leftover Effort = Agency

  • Even when overwhelmed, you often still have 1–30 marbles of discretionary effort.

  • Small actions—breathing, eating, walking, journaling—show you still have control.

  • These choices redirect leftover marbles toward calm, focus, and stability.

• Why “Just Sit With It” Can Backfire

  • Many are told to “sit with your feelings,” but without knowing how, it can make things worse.

  • Using leftover marbles for active steps prevents spiraling and builds resilience.

• Proof That Feelings Don’t Kill You

  • Feelings may convince you they’ll destroy you, but 99 times out of 100, they don’t.

  • Surviving uncomfortable emotions builds evidence for your own strength.

• Power in Doing It With Discomfort

  • Life will be hard either way—avoiding feelings doesn’t remove difficulty.

  • Agency comes from making choices alongside the discomfort, not in spite of it.

  • Gratitude emerges from realizing you can still move forward, even when it hurts.

• Practical Takeaway

  • Stop trying to shrink the number of marbles consumed by feelings.

  • Instead, focus on what you do with the marbles that remain.

  • Even one marble is enough to begin changing your direction.