Forgiveness is for the one who forgives. To forgive someone who did something harmful to you does not mean that you approve of what they did. Forgiveness releases you from the chains that bind you to the initial injury or insult. We can carry this around with us for years, re-living and feeling over and over that pain. In Buddhism, this is the second arrow - the first is the injury, the second is licking that wound and keeping it from being healed. We also have to learn to forgive ourselves. We are here to learn, grow and share. Growth comes from learning from our mistakes - and allowing others to learn from theirs.