Betsy married a gentleman, who was a widow with a young child.  She loved her new family, but saw they may need time/space to heal from their loss.  Betsy realized that "love and loss live side by side".  She also lost 3 loved ones, due to suicide.  This taught Betsy that new things can grow even after a loss, such as a more affectionate family.  Her "platinum rule" is to do unto others what they want done.