I know how intimidating and frustrating it can be to put on your comparison glasses when you hear your friends talk about their love and sex lives and you’re either 1. Totally inexperienced, 2. Perpetually single, or 3. Wondering what all the hype is about because you’re not that interested in sex.

I was in category number 1 for a long time never having felt free to have the sorts of sexual experiences my friends were having during high school and college.

But, after years of working on it, I look