Episode 057 - Stop Trying to Change Your Emotions With Other Emotions

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Tori 

When you’re stuck in a spiral of self-judgment, regret, or overwhelm, the typical advice is to feel something different - to force your way into gratitude, joy, or peace. But here’s the truth: emotions don’t change emotions.

Actions do. (Frames and contexts can too, but let's focus on action...)

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori dismantles the myth that emotional states can be shifted by sheer force of will. You’ll discover:

Why saying “I should” or “I need to” or "I should just be" only deepens emotional ruts

The reason “Don’t worry, be happy” is terrible advice

What to do instead when you’re stuck, spiraling, or snapping at others

How to leverage behaviors, not feelings, to shift into more resourceful states

A powerful real-world coaching story about emotional spirals, calendar design, and strategic behavior change

You’ll also get an introduction to a practical framework for influence that includes States, Frames, Patterns, and Contexts - and why you don’t fix a state problem in the state bucket.

Free Resource: DrTori.com/101

Download 101 practical actions to manage your state - no email required.

Ready to change your day, your impact, or your relationship? 

Stop wrestling with your emotions. Take action instead.

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