The Self-Trust Project

059. You Don’t Need New Friends to Grow


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Here's what you'll learn:

Elevating the Conversations Around You

  • Why “leveling up your circle” can feel isolating

  • The alternative: changing the conversations, not the people

  • Three levels of conversation:

    • Low: gossip, complaints, judgment

    • Mid: tasks, work, circumstances

    • High: ideas, growth, change

  • How to move from reacting to directing conversations

  • Replacing statements with questions to shift energy

    • “That sounds frustrating. What do you think would make it better?”

    • “That’s one way to see it. Have you thought about it like this?”

  • Leading without ego or judgment

  • Emotional regulation in conversations

  • Recognizing when to shift topics entirely

  • Simple questions that elevate dialogue:

    • “What’s something you’ve learned lately that surprised you?”

    • “What are you trying to get better at right now?”

  • How practicing deeper conversations with others strengthens your inner dialogue

  • Reflection prompts:

    • “Where do I default to safety instead of curiosity?”

    • “What thoughts keep looping in my mind and why?”

  • Challenge: observe your conversations this week

    • Notice if they lean high or low on the spectrum

    • Ask one question that adds depth instead of walking away

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The Self-Trust ProjectBy Bradley Rausch