The Self-Trust Project: How to Heal After a Breakup

Episode Summary

• Bradley shares an unfiltered reflection on the six months following his breakup

• Focuses on emotional recovery, nervous system regulation, and rebuilding identity

• Offers three mindset reframes and five tactical steps for anyone healing from a major ending

Core Themes

• Breakups dismantle your sense of safety, self-trust, and identity

• Emotional chaos is part of your nervous system recalibrating

• Healing is non-linear and cannot be rushed

3 Mindset Shifts

• Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way

  • Pain is a natural physiological response to loss

  • Grief has no timeline

  • Judging your emotions slows recovery

• Your emotions don’t need to make sense

  • Disorientation and contradiction mean your body is processing

  • Feeling better or worse without reason is normal

  • Acceptance accelerates integration

• Pain is proof of self-respect

  • Leaving what doesn’t serve you is an act of self-trust

  • The heartbreak is the cost of choosing integrity

  • With time, pain converts to confidence and self-belief

5 Tactical Practices

• Conserve energy consciously

  • Acknowledge where attention goes

  • Let yourself ruminate, but do it intentionally

  • Direct even 1% of leftover energy toward yourself

• Walk daily

  • Movement helps regulate emotion

  • Walking processes feelings through the body

• Survive the first 10 seconds of a wave

  • Don’t resist the surge

  • Acceptance softens intensity faster

• Refuse resentment

  • Anger keeps the bond alive

  • Respect for the other person speeds emotional detachment

• Abandon the idea of linear healing

  • Some days you’ll feel free, others shattered

  • Both are valid parts of the same process

Final Message

• You can’t skip the pain to reach clarity

• You traded comfort for self-respect

• Keep walking, breathing, and feeling

• Healing isn’t about moving on, it’s about moving with yourself