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In this raw and honest episode of All Can No Can’t, Jeff sits down with Angie Hawkins – coach and author of Running in Slippers – to talk about what it really takes to heal old wounds, stop playing the victim, and build a life that actually feels like yours. 

Angie grew up with emotionally unavailable parents, a highly critical mom, and learned early on that perfectionism and overachieving were the only ways to avoid criticism. As an adult, that turned into corporate burnout, people-pleasing, emotional numbing, and chasing happiness through external things — a move to Hawaii, relationships, achievements, and “checking the boxes.” 

When a breakup, grief, isolation, job fear, and a flooded condo all collided — and then COVID hit — Angie spiraled into hopelessness and attempted to end her life. She overdosed on anxiety meds, blacked out, and woke up in the hospital angry that she’d survived… until a friend told her, “It’s not your time.” That sentence changed everything. 

If you’ve ever felt stuck, burned out, unhappy, or like happiness just isn’t “for you,” this episode is a lifeline.

💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• How emotionally unavailable parents and criticism create perfectionism and overachieving
• Why so many adults feel numb, unfulfilled, and like happiness isn’t available 
• What emotional regulation actually means and how to feel anger, sadness, and anxiety without being swallowed by them
• Why numbing your “negative” emotions also turns off your joy and excitement
• How women (and men) are conditioned to ignore their own needs, and how to start asking: “What do I want?”
• Angie’s GLOW Method framework:
  • G – Go back to your childhood
  • L – Light yourself up
  • O – Overcome external validation
  • W – Welcome yourself back home 
• Practical ways to reconnect with what lit you up as a kid
• How to start doing one thing every day that brings you joy, even if nothing else in your life changes yet

• 00:00 – Angie’s childhood: criticism, emotional neglect & perfectionism
• 05:00 – “My parents did what they could” & understanding emotional unavailability
• 08:00 – How perfectionism became a survival strategy 
• 10:00 – Feeling unfulfilled but believing happiness isn’t available
• 11:30 – The move from Chicago to Hawaii: trying to outrun her problems
• 17:00 – Job fear, loneliness, flooded condo & the slow unraveling
• 19:00 – COVID, breakup, and the rock-bottom overdose
• 20:00 – “It’s not your time” — the words that changed her life
• 23:00 – Why she wrote Running in Slippers & what the title means
• 25:00 – Emotional bypassing vs. healing “in earnest”
• 27:00 – Emotional regulation and learning to feel safe in your body
• 30:00 – Numbing out, men and women, and why so many people feel nothing
• 32:00 – The GLOW Method explained

👤 Connect with Angie Hawkins

• 🌐 Website & Book: Running in Slippers – coaching, book info & her Shine From the Inside program: runninginslippers.com

💪 Work with Jeff

If you’re a high performer who feels like you’re fighting something you can’t see, Jeff helps you control the chaos and take back your life. He’s survived sudden cardiac death and rebuilt from the ground up — now he coaches a small group of driven entrepreneurs and leaders to do the same. No fluff. No excuses. Just results. 

👉 Apply for coaching: jeffluther.com (or your actual coaching URL)
👉 Follow Jeff on Instagram: @all