* Your true success in life is measured by the depth of your relationships.

* Paul was a relationship expert.

* He had to come down on the people for their immorality.

* Now it was time for him to deal with them for their idolatry.

* He talked about their history, how their ancestors were punished by God for their idolatry.

* Vs 14-15 - he couched his rebuke with a compliment.

* He’s like, “Stop doing this junk. Now, I know you’re smart and thoughtful people and want what’s best...”

* The rule of thumb in relationships is 5:1 -

* 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative (Dr. John Gottman).

* This keeps you at status quo.

* The rule of thumb for thriving relationships is 20:1 -

* 20 positive interactions for every 1 negative.

* When interacting, remember the difference between criticism and complaint.

* A complaint is about behavior.

* It focuses on “me.”

* “When you did that I felt this…”

* Criticism is about identity.

* If focuses on “you.”

* “You did this. You always do this. You’re such a ….”

* Unchecked criticism leads to contempt.

* Contempt brings in the element of comparison.

* “You did this. You always do this. I never do that…”

* Your success in life is measured by the depth of your relationships!

* So be good at relationships!