Midlife AF Podcast

#107 Lovingly Attached AF

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In this episode, I sit down to have a conversation about the importance of developing a loving, compassionate relationship with ourselves.

As someone who has navigated her own challenges with alcohol, I share how cultivating self-kindness was pivotal to creating lasting change.

We explore how our childhood attachment styles can shape our adult lives and the practical steps we can take to become the nurturing parent we always needed.

Through delving into the neuroscience behind self-compassion and the different attachment patterns, I offer insights and tools that can support personal growth, whether you're looking to shift your relationship with alcohol or simply want to deepen your self-acceptance.

This conversation dives beneath the surface-level strategies to uncover the deeper emotional and psychological factors that often underlie our struggles, providing a roadmap for true transformation.

Key Takeaways:

  • The root cause of many people's difficulties changing their relationship with alcohol is the harsh, self-critical inner voice - we must learn to treat ourselves with kindness first.
  • Our attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) formed in childhood profoundly impact our adult relationships and self-perception, but these patterns are not fixed.
  • Practices like loving-kindness meditation can help us become the nurturing parent we never had, healing the wounded parts of ourselves.
  • Developing awareness around our triggers, motivations, and emotional patterns around alcohol is the crucial first step before making behavioral changes.
  • Embracing all aspects of ourselves, including the parts we've rejected or made "bad," is key to lasting personal transformation.
  • We can shift our attachment styles through inner work, learning to be the compassionate caregiver we always needed.

    • Episode links & Resources

    • Learn more about Emma Gilmour at: www.hoperisingcoaching.com
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      • My Upcoming Coached Events & Programs:

      • 'Feel healthier, sleep better, get more done!’ Discover the secret to a ‘take it or leave it’ relationship with alcohol with my 5 Days To Freedom - Virtual Retreat - 17 February - 21 February @ 7:00pm-8:00pm nightly (live & recorded): https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/5day-vr
      • 'From Crappy to Happy’ Join The Great Aussie Alcohol - LIVE 30-Day Experiment for a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER YOU - without sacrificing, struggling, or feeling like you're missing out.
        3rd March-1st April: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/the_great_aussie_alcohol_experiment
      • Join Emma's VIP ELITE experience here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/offers/k7AXMNPG 
      • Join Emma's Be The Lighthouse membership here: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/bethelighthouse 
      • Get Emma's Visualisation audio download at https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/northstarvisualisation 
      • Emma's Awareness worksheets for people wanting to prepare prior to taking a break from drinking or reduce their drinking by being more mindful about what and why they drink https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/awareness-worksheets-opt-in 
      • Emma's 5 Day Alcohol Reset for people looking to take a quick reset https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/fivedayreset 
      • Join The Self-Paced Great Aussie Alcohol Experiment at https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/aae 

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