In this EmpowerHER Podcast episode, the host explores whether it’s actually healthy when a man makes more money in a relationship, emphasizing that the real issue is power dynamics, not paychecks. She explains how income gaps can affect leverage, decision-making, speaking up, exit options, and emotional safety, even in loving relationships, and how women may self-silence or over-accommodate out of “gratitude.” She also discusses what happens when women earn more, including pressure to downplay success, manage a partner’s ego, and shrink themselves, which can erode attraction, respect, and self-trust. Using personal stories and conversations with friends, she highlights how many beliefs about men earning more are rooted in men wanting to feel powerful and women wanting to feel secure, often without knowing why. 

00:00 The Question Nobody Says Out Loud: Should Men Earn More?

00:34 Power Dynamics, Not Paychecks: Why Money Changes Relationships

03:11 When He Earns More: Leverage, Exit Options & Self-Silencing

04:26 When She Earns More: Shrinking Success to Protect His Ego

09:25 Getting to the Root: Men Want Power, Women Want Security

12:20 Red Flags of Imbalance: When Money Erodes Trust & Choice

14:32 Reflection Prompts 

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