Unstuck Your Life

108. The People Pleasing Paradox: Why Being Nice Is Making You Miserable


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Ever feel like your calendar is a game of Tetris, but instead of blocks, it's filled with other people's needs? Welcome to the wild world of people-pleasing, where "no" is a four-letter word and your own desires are buried deeper than that gym membership you swore you'd use.

In this episode, we're diving headfirst into the people-pleasing pool (hope you brought your floaties!):

  • Discover why saying "yes" is the emotional equivalent of eating an entire pizza by yourself. Feels great at first, but oh boy, do you pay for it later.
  • Learn how being a pushover can actually make people respect you less. Plot twist: saying "no" might make you more likable!
  • Master the art of declining requests faster than you can say "I'd love to, but..."
  • One simple question that'll make you feel less guilty than eating the last slice of cake at a party.
  • Why doing absolutely nothing might be the most rebellious (and healthy) thing you do all week.
  • Whether you're a black belt in people-pleasing or just a yellow belt in setting boundaries, this episode is your chance to level up your self-care game.

    Tune in to learn how to go from a "yes" puppet to a "no" ninja, all without turning into a total jerk. Because let's face it, the world needs your kindness - just not at the expense of your sanity.

    Remember, you're not a smartphone. Stop letting everyone else drain your battery!


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    About the host:

    Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.


    This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.


    I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

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