Heartbreaks reveal so much about ourselves, the dependency we have on others, the way we rely on them for happiness, reassurance, peace everything you felt like you lost was never theirs to give. Everything you lack without them in your life, was never theirs to bring. It was planted on unstable ground.

Refuse to be bound in bitterness.
Instead, be intentional about waking up every morning and saying “God, teach me to do your will. Lead me on level ground. Don’t let me think thoughts of bitterness, anger, jealousy or insecurity. God, fill my heart with your love. if i’m seeking your will, great things are to come. if this person is not your will, I will gladly set it down and fix my eyes on you.”

Fill your voids with God.
Don’t clutter your spirit with distractions. Ask yourself what it is you run to when you feel upset. If it’s not Jesus, it’s a distraction to keep you in a vicious cycle of placing expectations on people that’t they can never live up to. We put expectations on people to love us perfectly when they’re simply incapable.

Quit taking it out on God.
How many of us end up hurt from a relationship God never told us to be in? God’s plans for you are good, pleasing and perfect. He loves you. It’s not His goal to punish you through people or to take things away from you to hurt you.

Breakup Takeaways:
Were there any red flags in the beginning that you overlooked that ended up playing a significant role in breaking up?
What are non negotiables?
Look at what positives you can take away from this experience.

Your pain is not purposeless:
Your story is important and will be used to help somebody else. Your instruction is to love and forgive. Time doesn’t heal. Understanding and perspective does..

Final Thoughts:

1. Remind yourself everything happens for a reason. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

2. God is with you, he has not forgotten you.

3. Seek accountability.